Hello everyone-<p>As many of us know, tomorrow is K's court date. As any of us who have been there know, this day can be really emotionally stressing. Let's keep her in our prayers so that things work out favorably for her and her children.<p>Keep us posted K. My thoughts and prayers are with you.<p>Take care and God bless!<p>K

You have my prayers K, I know it will go in your favor. Just stand clear of the medical hurricaine when it does [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] . You know how they get when things are not in their control.
(((hugs)))

Praying for you and your children.

Sending my Prayers, GIIC.
You'll make it through this day and many more.
Your children will help you through this.
Make sure you update us on the results.
S

K,
My prayers are with you. Good luck & God bless,
Dave

Praying for you, GIIC.<p>Jo

Thank you Thank you Thank you everyone.<p>I am not holding up very well - steadily getting more emotional as the hearing date has neared.<p>WH is so proud of himself and his latest "offer" of child support. He is also so gracious as to let me stay in the house for the next 6 months while I nurse a newborn, take care of 4 kids, fix-up, clean and show the house while it's on the market, and look for a job. <p>It's just so hard to believe that someone who professess to high heaven about how much he LOVES his kids, is so willing to just throw them into daycare and radically change every aspect of their lives and thinks that it is in their best interest. No offense to working moms(which I have been and will be again) and the great dads on this board, but I just can't believe it's better for the kids to be taken care of by someone making minimum wage than their own mother.<p>I'm just a mess right now. And to top it all off, WH says if I don't accept his "offer" then he's just going to make sure the judge gives him overnites with the baby starting now and some other equally horrible set up for the other kids. <p>It's like he thinks he can hurt me through the kids, and nothing I say or do will change his mind. <p>The prayers will definitely help me get through this and I know things will work out in the end.<p>I just hate us all having to go through this! And to make it all worse, the WS's don't even care the havoc they wreck. <p>God give me strength! K

Hang in there K-<p>You are bound to be emotional, even if you are ready. This is your marriage that is ending, you had high hopes. Just remember, your husband failed you and you did everything that you could. In time you will be able to look back with no regrets because you did all that you could.<p>Your husband is going to push you. He wants/has to appear confident,it is all a mind game. Also document all his threats about custody, etc. and bring them with you. Let them see who they're really dealing with. Don't let the control freak get to you! <p>I am sorry about your house. My house is no castle, but I was able to keep it. Although in ways I would like to sell it and move on, my kids weren't comfortable. I wish your STBX could see the harm his senseless actions are causing. <p>I will be thinking of you tomorrow and keeping you in my prayers. Let us know how it goes.<p>Take care and God bless!<p>K

GIIC,
My prayers go out for you. I don't believe any judge would ever make you give up a new born. I know here in OH visitation is set on age. Did you find out what it is in your state??<p>Also most states have the CS set up in guidelines. Again here there is no negotiations on CS.<p>God Bless,<p>Bob

GIIC you are in my prayers. Just know that you will make it through.
-Petrie

Dear God Is In Control-
What a great name you have. It is true today, and it will be true tomorrow!!! God IS in control of your situation. He loves you and your children, and will protect them. <p>Your ex sounds a lot like mine - the cockiness, the veiled threats, the deception. Mine did concede to enough maintenance to allow me to stay at home until my youngest is 5, but that is only because he knew I couldn't make enough to put three in daycare, and he also felt guilty. (In the beginning...now he has rewritten history so that I forced him to cheat, I'm sure!!) <p>NO judge will force a newborn to have overnights. It is age 2 here in CO, and my therapist says he sometimes testifies in court that it is best to wait until age 3. Don't be scared by his bluffs. It is hard not to be, and he is attacking you where you are the most vulnerable- your children. But he will not win - and he knows it, which is why he is trying to bully you now. <p>I'll be praying for you tomorrow. I know how hard it is to be post partum and hormonal, and having to face court. That was my life a year ago right now! You'll be fine, because you have truth on your side. Let us know how it goes!!<p>WhoAmINow (Krista)