MY MOTHER-IN-LAW HAD ASKED MY HUSBAND TO SIGN FOR A LOAN ON A MOBLE HOME, SO HE DID.<BR>THE PROBLEM IS, IS THAT SHE SKIPS OUT ON MAKING HER PAYMENT QUIT A BIT, AND MY HUSBAND<BR>HAS A HARD TIME TALKING WITH HIS MOTHER ABOUT ANYTHING THAT COULD HURT HER. HE HAS TRIED TO TALK TO HER ABOUT PUTTING IT UP FOR SALE, BUT WE HAVE NOT HEARD NO RESPONCE FROM HER, WHICH ISNT UNUSUAL. MY PROBLEM (1) my husband has to ask her to sale it enstead of telling her, when its hurting our credit.<BR>(2) she puts her son and his family under this kind of pressure and she doesnt care.<BR>(3)she seems to have total control over her son. all i see is using going on here, she takes, but does not give back!!<BR>(5) she also expects us to cover the payment and we dont hear from her when she decides to skip out on us. We just hear from the company themselves.<BR>Please help me, we have been dealing with this problem for 7 years now, and im beginning to wonder if this marriage is worth this much trouble.(note) his mother does seem to come first or this wouldnt be happening there would of been a stop by now!<BR>PLEASE HELP ME GET THROUGH THIS!

This problem will only be resolved by some very open and honest discussions that will touch on some very sensitive issues (i.e. mother/son relationships). For this reason it will be important for you to learn to be a better communicator. <P>Please go to the home page of this site and click on "basic concepts". Read all the stuff in there about emotional needs, avoiding love busting, the Policy of Joint Agreement(POJA) etc. Only after you have a grasp of these concepts can you hope to succesfully address the concern you have outlined in your post.<P>Take a week (at least) to do this reading. Print the stuff off the web site and read it at your leisure. Get a highlighter and highlight important points. If your H asks you what you are reading tell him you are trying to learn how to improve your marriage. Let him read the material if he wants to. <P>If you both start working on your marriage using the Marriage Builder concepts the issue of his mother will come up but you can constructivly resolve it because you will be working from the same game plan. Marriage Builder Concepts are the place to start!<P>Mud