I need immediate HELP. My husband and I have been married for 2 years, and we have 2 beautiful kids. The problem is my husband does not take care of us financially or emotionally. My husband does not want to work, and he stays out for days at a time. Our oldest daughter is 6 years old and I constantly tell him he is setting a bad example to her. I do believe that he loves us, but I don't know what will make him realize that I need him to work and somegimes help me with the kids. I work hard for myself and my family and I think he should be doing the same. He tells me he realizes that he is the problem in our marriage, but he feels that counseling will not help. I love my husband dearly and I want him to be there for my kids, but I have gotten to the point where I am about to give up on this marriage. I have faith in God and I know prayer can change many things, but my husband just does not want to do right!!!!!! What can I do? I have tried everything, I have given everything, my all, and that seems like it's not enough! How can I get my husband to realize it's time to grow up and handle his business, because there is nothing in the streets!

Dear Neenee, My husband acts quite childish sometimes also, most men do, but if hes leaving for days at a time, I'm sorry but hes either cheating or has a drug problem. If you allow him to come and go as he pleases why would he want to change? You've got to make him understand that you're not going to stand for his behavior. You've got to decide how much youre willing to put up with. Good luck to you!