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How much sex is "normal" for you and your SO (please include length of relationship)?

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Once a day, twice weekends.

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We've been married 18 years.<BR>7-8 times a week. This was the norm for years, went thru a bad period where communication & sex were both less frequent, now communicating well & back to daily sex.<BR>

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Forgot to post years together: 8 years 9 months.

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I knew I was missing out on something! Been married 6 years, together for 8... norm is 3-4 times a week...including weekends... [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>I want more, more, more!!!! H...well...I'm still working on that...<P>

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At least 5 times a week, sometimes-usually more. Been together 5 yrs.

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And you're all posting on Marriage Builders because you're having MARITAL PROBLEMS?? I'd hate to see what would happen if all were well with you!! ; /

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Married 10 years 3-4 times/month. Pretty pathetic.

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I agree with quandry! I guess this is an area I better think of working on if he stays.

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My SO and I have been together for 2 extremely happy years. We have a great relationship. Our sexual routine occurs about 6-8 times a month. We may go two weeks without having sex and then we'll have sex three days in a row. But that's normal for us and both are satisfied. We do not feel we have any problems in that area. So, it's different for each couple. The only time I think a problem occurs within a couple regarding sex is if one partner feels they are not getting enough or if one feels they are having sex too much. If there's an unbalance with sex, the problem needs to be discussed. <P>------------------<BR>Tal

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Sex? what's that...ready to choke guys?<P>It's been 18months since we last made love.<BR>partially because of my inability to give myself back to him completely. We've been married 7 years. Together for 12years.<P>I am envious of those of you that are posting what i would consider a wonderful sex life, as stated above..i'd hate to see if things were going great! I'm worried that if and when the time comes to do it again, i will have long forgotten how!<P>CDA<p>[This message has been edited by CDA 72 (edited June 03, 2000).]

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Seriously... I was reading that, according to the Kinsley studies, 2-3 times a week is average for couples in their 20s and 30s; frequency declines in the 40s and thereafter... Sounds like most of you guys are way above average...???

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Second marriage/blended family for us.<P>We've been together 4 yrs. total, married for 1 year. Average for sex is 5x a week.

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quandry...<BR> My H and I are in recovery now...working hard to communicate & meet each other's needs...you would've gotten a different answer a year ago. <P> I think on MB you probably have an unusual distribution...at one end, folks who are working hard on using the MB principles and seeing some success...on the other end, folks who are trying to use MB principles, but not yet getting much help from their spouse. Probably not a lot in the middle...which skews your responses here.<p>[This message has been edited by kam6318 (edited June 05, 2000).]

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Once a week...on Sat. nights. H claims to be too tired on Monday-Friday, and Sunday night he crashes early to put in long hours on Monday.<P>His boss is killing my sex life.<P>I have made my peace with it, though...thinking in terms of quantity not quality.<P>But he loves to snuggle...

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Have to agree with kam about the MB working.<P>Before this, we slept in separate rooms for two years.<BR>

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Married 17 years...sex MAYBE 30 in those years. Last time was over 5 years ago and the time before that was 5 years before that. Daughter is 14 and we've had sex twice in her lifetime. All this and he's had an 2 year emotional affair, and I had a mother in law who hated me and told me I was not welcome in her home. He wouldn't stand up for me when it came to his family. Now I've learned that all this time he's lied about his age, his activity in school, and who knows what else. All the while sitting with me in church each Sunday and shaking his head and looking at me when pastor talks about particular sins such as submission. Whew! I believe when you get married that it's a vow to our Heavenly Father. I believe it would be well with God if I left.

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just looking at some of the replies<P>there is no right or wrong amount as long as both couples are happy then its right for them<P>for my SO and I its about 1-2 times a week<BR>we have been together 2 years and almost 3 months

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I should note that this is my first post. My H and I have been married about 2 years, and while we are young -19 and 20-, we only have sex about 2-3 times a week. Suppose we can blame the 11 month old for that, huh!!

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Almost 19 years. Last time was.... hmmmm... not this year... guess I can't remember.

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