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My husband is having an email affair with an old girlfriend they have seen each other once in 12yrs. I was in plan A and he wanted us both, tried counseling he didnt want to, I went to Plan B and moved him out since out for 2wks he filed for divorce and was not communicating at all. Now he has started to email me and I am still following my Plan B of NO CONTACT. Is this the right move or am I just way to late because of the filing of divorce or should I just continue the NO CONTACT and hope for some small change?
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I would loosen up a bit and start talking to him to see if there is a way you can save your "M".
Communicate, Communicate, Communicate.
Email him back, and you both need to start talking about how you can save your "M".
I could be wrong, but I think things got way out of control over something that could have been averted if you would just talk to each other face to face and tell each other how you both feel at this point.
Stay Strong!
Wallace
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You are way off Wallace, I talked talked and talked in the beginning and then he went off to meet this girl and since then he is so head strong on being with her he doesnt even want to talk to me UNLESS he needs something to suit his needs. So I feel I should not communicate, he wanted space and didnt feel I could give it to him didnt think I could leave him alone. Well I feel I am proving myself to him by not communicating. Maybe by not knowing anything about me or what i am doing dont you think he will start to miss something?
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What were the terms you gave in the Plan B letter? Has he met any of those conditions?
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I sent him basically a good bye letter letting him know how much I love him and that I always will but that I can not be a part of his life as long as she is in it. And they are still communicating daily so I have stopped all communication with him except for through my lawyer.
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If you have talked and gone through Plan A such as you stated... Then stick to Plan B, and hope for the best.
Say a lot of prayers if you want to save your marriage
Good Luck!
Stay Strong!
Wallace
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I have been saying alot of prayers and there are several people praying for us. I hope this PLAN B works and he grows to miss me and miss what he had.
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It's in times like this, that you need to put God first, and let him lead your path.
I believe that you are going about it the right way.
I'll say a prayer for you as well.
Stay Strong!
Wallace
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Thank you for the prayer and support. I am trying to stay strong and I am putting God first. I have been so called "lost" during our marriage attended church before my husband and we never did during our marriage but I have started going again with some friends and enjoy it very much and feel like I am getting my faith back. It is helping me get stronger
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I'm glad to hear that you are getting your faith back.
I was a "lost soul" for sometime concerning my faith and my "M".
Well I'm in process of losing my "M", but my faith has come back.
I'm sure the Lord had his reason's for enlightening me on my WW"s activities.
I may lose my "M", but I will never lose my faith.
If it is God's will your "M" will be restored, and if it is not, I'm sure he has other plans for you.
Stay Strong!
Wallace
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