MOW H called their D was yesterday she agreed to all his terms. he couldnt understand why? his attorney had given the same terms months ago & her attorney didnt respond back. thought she would fight everything. 3 boys under 10, they split the month 2 weeks with ea parent & she only gets $200 a month child support. MOW H makes the same as my x (counting X Military Retirement) around $42,000 & she is a nurse working full time now. MOW got the house but has to pay $760 month on a run down house, it is at a high rate she cant refinance because of bad credit they owe around $60,000, MOW X agreed to pay back taxes on house & charge accounts total for both around $8,000. she moved the kids from their school to one near my x telling co-worker she is moving in with X. The shock was that older sons have been telling dad that X has been yelling at 4 yr old. X has never been around younger children & cant stand a lot of noise. cant believe a mother would let a man treat her kids this way. Im not talking about raising his voice, X yells like a drill sgt. when upset (20 yrs in the military). he does not know how to talk to children. X says that MOW is taken him out on the town & he is not spending a dime on her, she is so crazy about him that she pays for his meals & the night out. not sure why a mother of 3 would do this with a man her children should come 1st. guess if the sex isnt working try another approach to win him over. MOW X would take his wife back if she would come home but he is happy just to have his boys with him. he is a very nice looking young christian man. It will not be long before he meets a christian woman who will be a good role model for their 3 kids. 2 older children know why mom & dad are not together & blame my X, they say he is not a nice person. Dont know if our D papers helped MOW H it does say our M was broken up because of his W. some how I feel that MOW is waiting for my X to appeal trying to get our sons college money to make her life a little easier. x told MOW that he had lots of money saved up, it took us years to save & now its gone spend on lawyers. MOW & her x made twice as much money as us but had nothing but bills. MOW told co-worker that she will be glad when she can go back working part-time, she works mostley the night shift & X works days. X has not let our son meet MOW, & knows that our son will stop seeing him if she becomes part of X life. friends are saying they will M but keep it a secret. X is not at peace & never will be until he gets his life right with christ. I believe God will not let 2 people who broke up 2 families live a happy life together. MOW X said if I need him for my appeal he will be there to tell all about my X & his wife. our appeal before the judge is tuesday, cant wait to get it started, X is asking for money from the sale of our H, no spousal support & that mow be taken off our d papers & sons college money. if the judge doesnt rule in 60 days then we can go for the appeal judges. I do plan to appeal if X gets his way. my lawyer will be getting x cell phone numbers for the final appeal. feel like Im in gods hands now & not worried about what the devil is about to do. these days I wear a smile, the past is behind me, looking forward to the future with both my children & granddaughter. told MOW X that we will keep in touch if he needs someone to talk with call me, he reminds me of my older son (same age group). his family is now part of ours.

m-17 yrs 9 months
D-5-23-02
c-13, 28, 7 gr d
H-42 W-48

MOW - 29
D-judge has to sign
C-3 under 10
M-10 yrs

Together,

I notice no replies and I am really not sure what your post is saying here?

In any case, good luck with your appeals and I hope you get what you need and this back and forth with co-workers, X's, and kids ends.

As for the college fund I would scream loud and clear that that is NOT to be touched or divided. A third party name should be added to the account for withdraw and deposits and additional deposits required in the divorce settlement. This divorce should not preclude your children from going to college due to lack of funds.

Keep that smile and looking towards the future, it sure will help.

IS

Hi Together, what an ordeal, I'm glad you are expressing your pain and unbelief of what you're going through....Its amazing as you said how 2 BS's are setting on the sideline discussing what they are dealing with while 2 WS's tear apart 2 families, "you can be asure their relatonship will not last" there are too many negative things working against it, but don't wait around and put your life on hold to see them fail.

I look back now 1 year later and think what I could have done different that would have gave me less pain because you pay the price later of what you will tolerate while they cheat and lie to you and they feel no remorse. I see now the good of if OM is in the picture to leave the WS alone..work on you and get on with life....

As far as wasted money, don't worry, it comes and go.....college scholarships are available out there everywhere...

As you said this issue is in the Lords hand and believe me , God is faithful he'll never forsake you....