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Well, I hate that I had to do it and I feel bad because he is a really nice guy but I am not ready. I told him I wasn't ready yet and he did accept that and more or less left the door open. I guess this does give me some hope that I am not some kind of "germ" everyone stays away from and avoids.
It is just sad, all of it. My xh is getting married this weekend too so all of this is getting compounded.
Some day I will be ready and I know there is someone out there for me.
Kathy
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what's with the constant comparison to your X?
do you want to be like him? or do you want to be yourself?
sounds like you are using the wrong measuring stick to evaluate yourself. . .
what new measuring stick could you be using instead?
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AM,
At least you were honest with him. It might not feel great right now, but later you'll feel better that you didn't date when you weren't ready. My divorce has been final for about 9 months now. I haven't even thought about the possiblity of dating. Like you, I'm just not ready. Just remember that no matter how bad it feels that your X is getting married, that has nothing to do with you. Probably a good sign that you're ready to date will be when you no longer care or feel sad about his marriage.
Hang in there.
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