I don't want to get divorced, does any one ever get back together before the divorec goes through?
I love My H with all my heart. I want to still be married to him.

Yes people do get back together before it is final and even get remarried after. I know what you mean about not wanting to get divorced-I don't either. What has been going on? What is your story?

I understand you...i am going through this myself...im not the one that messed up and my husband wants to divorce...i have never felt so much guilt in all my life...even though i have learned a great deal and grew up, i cant save my marriage...its so very hard...sometimes i cant believe how heartbraking it is...shirl

i'm on the same boat, i've been plan aing, still no sign that it maybe working, yet, divorce is nearby, not sure what to do, read about plan A, everyone on here is very helpful if you have questions. i've been separated for 9 months and have a 1 year old daughter. I really feel in my heart, that we could fix things, as i love him with all my heart, however sometimes i do feel like, he has made up his mind and moved on. Sometimes i feel like i should too, only i can't. Keep praying, learn about yourself, what mistakes were done in the marriage. Try plan A!!

My H and I have been married for 15 years. He went out to sea ( he is in the Navy) Came home with Female friend said he did not care what I thought or how I felt she was going to be his friend no matter what. Well, He is no matter what after a few months of always hanging out with her, her drinking and hanging all over him kissing on his neck in front of our childern, him letting her cuss me out, I asked him to pick he picked me but then went back to her. He said they never had sex, but all of this drove me crazy. ( some back history on my self I was raped when I was 11 almost every day for a year. I need to feel I am wanted and that I am special to the men that are in my life) Since he no longer wanted me I had 2 PA. I did not love the men they did not love me. The one was only a month long the other was only a one time thing. After a year of him and FF( female friend) he moved out went to live with her and her H ( who is clueless to what is going on) my H his FF and her H all drink a lot!!!
So there is his no matter what!! Her life is with her H she still has her house, the 2 men I was with have there lives, Our is broken, and our childrens lives too. that is his no matter what!
I really want him back I want us to work things out I am in counseling for my past sexual abuse and we go to marriage counseling ( but he no longer wants to go. I have read the books and so did my H but he thinks all this MB stuff is junk, funny thing he was the one who got me into it.

Hello everyone,

I am the BS. My W had EA and maybe more with co-worker starting April "01". I have filed for D last Nov. All I can say through my experience is that it was very hard for me to do. My WW has NEVER tried since D-day to work on us. Not one day. I can honestly say that I have tried everything to work on our M. From plan A to therapy to giving her space and time. Nothing. I believe that W wants to move on. Now I need to move on. We have been married for almost 10 years. We have two small ones.

I was hurting everyday up until last May. Then I realized that there is more to life. REMEMBER - YOU ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE TO LIVE. I feel now that I can get by if the D goes through. I read and learn more about how to get through the tough times. I won't lie. It's tough, but it does get better.

I have a settlement meeting today with my lawyer today and Monday we meet my WW and her lawyer.

Good luck to all.

Dino