lets get right to it k? my husband and i have been in counceling for 8 months we are on the divorce path as far as i am concerned after 13 years of neglect and pretty much being alone except for my three children i asked him to do something about our marriage he did nothin for thirteen years k?<BR>he now tells me he realizes what he has done to me and won't ever hurt me again yeah right! we go to a party and this women we were with gets really nasty when she drinks <BR>and talks alot about sex and it seems to be toward my husband now knowing the way she is we always blew it off and it was a joke kinda thing but this time they went off togeather knowing that we were all ready having problems and saying he would do anything to keep me from being hurt again<BR>comes back about an hour later she is dripping wet and says she fell in a pond and he is begging me for forgiveness . and if it was the other way around it would be all over what am i an idiot ? how am i gonna fix this marriage when he doesn't even think about how something like that would affect me ? and let me just add no one else was walking off with another mans wife!

It's hard sometimes to figure out just what to say. . .<P>I wish no one hurt, ever.

<BR>Hi, sorry your husband is behaving so badly. This post is about a week old, so I'm wondering: Have you brought up this recent bad thing in counseling? If so, what happened? WHat does your counselor say about this? How does your H excuse or explain away what he did?<P>By the way, I don't buy the "fell into a pond" excuse. That may have been manufactured as a cover up after her clothes became stained and messed up. If they were gone an hour, it was long enough to get really close. Sorry to be so negative and suspicious but you already know what's going on. H is pushing to see how much it takes for you to fall over.<P>------------------<BR>Belle, Domestic Goddess<p>[This message has been edited by Bellevue (edited July 18, 2000).]