Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum

This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at mbrestored@gmail.com
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
#733088 08/14/02 07:15 PM
Joined: Dec 2001
Posts: 223
F
Member
OP Offline
Member
F
Joined: Dec 2001
Posts: 223
Okay folks....i might be ready to move into the dating world. I have been saying I am not ready....but I just might be! How the heck do you know if some of these guys are single???? I met a nice guy....wears a ring on right hand... and no wedding ring. I don't want to ask anyone....because if he is attached...I don't want him to know that I am interested....seems silly...but got any ideas!!??? I am so out of the dating and getting to know someone thing.

He does talk to me and flirts.....he even asked if I like going to the movies. Can't really tell if it was small talk or not. And like I said....I don't know if he is involved...so I don't want to play that game....right? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I will listen to all suggestions!!

Thanks!!

#733089 08/14/02 07:19 PM
Joined: Dec 2001
Posts: 223
F
Member
OP Offline
Member
F
Joined: Dec 2001
Posts: 223
Oh yeah.....the divorce was final 3 weeks ago....and it has been over a year since he left!
Just changed my profile!!!

#733090 08/15/02 08:30 AM
Joined: Jun 2002
Posts: 247
S
Member
Offline
Member
S
Joined: Jun 2002
Posts: 247
Just ask him. The best that can happen is that he isn't married and you just planted a seed with an honest question. The worst that can happen is that he is married which means you probably don't want to have anything to do with him.

You can easily make it sound like a question out of curiosity. Now if you go asking people that is a sure sign that you are interested because if you weren't you'd just ask him. By asking him it is just between the two of you.

The funny part is if he is interested in you and you ask him that question he will read it to mean you are interested in him. If he is not interested he'll just think it is a simple question with no other meaning.

I kind of look at it this way: if someone is the type of person to use my feeling against me then that is someone I should not be around and who's opinion does not matter to me.

#733091 08/15/02 06:02 PM
Joined: Dec 2001
Posts: 223
F
Member
OP Offline
Member
F
Joined: Dec 2001
Posts: 223
Moving-
Thanks for posting! I would not have anything to do with him if he is married. It's just the weirdest thing to even think about dating! A big group of us are going to go to happy hour tomorrow. Maybe I can find out then.

Thanks again! Moving on is a nice feeling!

FSA

#733092 08/16/02 05:24 AM
Joined: Jul 2002
Posts: 76
L
Member
Offline
Member
L
Joined: Jul 2002
Posts: 76
This might sound dumb, but you could always get his address/phone number. Maybe do a drive by or quickie call once - see if it looks like he's married, maybe get an answering machine message during day - is there another woman's voice on it... you know things like that. Maybe even try the phone book - most married folks have BOTH their names in it...
I don't think this is really snooping, just finding out a little simple background info - remember, there are a lot of peeps out there who are playing games on who they really are and who they aren't, especially online - it's unreal.
Best of luck and God bless.
Harold


Link Copied to Clipboard
Forum Search
Who's Online Now
1 members (1 invisible), 233 guests, and 69 robots.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Newest Members
Confused1980, Bibbyryan860, Ian T, SadNewYorker, Jay Handlooms
71,840 Registered Users
Building Marriages That Last A Lifetime
Copyright © 1995-2019, Marriage Builders®. All Rights Reserved.
Site Navigation
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 7.7.5