OK, I'm going to put my two cents in here.
My divorce was final a week ago yesterday, and my situation has
many similarities to yours.
If you have the time,
read my story to compare and contrast.
I see a
lot of my ex-wife in your posting. She can't decide what she wants right now. She doesn't want to be married, and yet she cannot seem to let go of me. We have done, and are still doing, the constant examination and rehashing of everything that went wrong in our marriage. It's a vicious circle, and one that is hard to break.
I have to say, that I am torn about whether or not I would get back together with my ex. Part of me would jump at the chance, while the other would run screaming from the building at the very idea. Don't get me wrong, I do still love her - deeply - but the wound is still too fresh.
I
do know, however, that before that would happen (at least right now), she would have to have the same conversation with me that JohnC is suggesting you have with your ex-husband. My trust in her has been shattered, you see, as surely as if she had an affair. Even more than if she had an affair, actually. The fundamental vow, above all others, is
not to leave - regardless. OK - enough of my rant. My anger is not directed at you, so please don't be offended by it! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
If you really want another shot at this,
you must talk to him about it!!!!! You can't be coy, hoping he will read your mind and get the message. You are going to have to sit down, face to face, and take a chance.
It just doesn't get any simpler than that! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
For what it's worth,
Has
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