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My H of 10 years and best friend of 15 years told me on Friday the 13th (5 weeks ago) that he didn't love me anymore. He wasn't attracted to me and that he has been unhappy for the past 5-6 years. I was not totally shocked by this as we had let our relationship snowball into a mass of unmet needs. Withholding trying to met each others needs as a means to punish or hurt each other. We have both taken responsibility and agree that we are both responsible. However, my husband had an affair and although he claims it could have been any other woman and that he hads cut off the ties...this is not true. Since he admitted to the A 5 weeks ago I have asked him or told him two separate times that I can not work on our relationship is he is continuing to have his needs met by her. He said he told her he couldn't be in touch with her. He told me tonight that he has toalked to her since tow weeks ago when I cought him and asked him to move out. He wants to stay because of the kids but is not sure he wants to work it out with me. He has been going back and forth aobut moving out for the past 5 weeks. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> I told him he needed to move out this weekend because of his continued contact. Am I doing the right thing or should I be living in the shadow of the OW. I am struggling. The only saving grace to all of this is that she lives 1500 miles away. My husband told me today that he has a business trip planned in 2 weeks...I know he will see her...since he has admitted that they are still talking. I need suggestions...please help!
Jeaner
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Sorry this is happening to you. I'd toss the CAKE-EATER out and let him begin living the consequences of his lifestyle - Plan A/B him and let him come in out of the FOG on his own. In the meanwhile, know for sure that you have loads of fellow MBers here to encourage, help and pray for you!
May God bless you in this hard time you're going thru.
Harold
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