I dont know what made me even try...but I decided to see if I could get into my ex's email. (we're suppose to be reconciling now) Well not only did i find him signed up to several dating services but also yahoo personals! you have to PAY for that one. He's been doing this the whole time he's been reconciling with me ... draggin me and my child halfway across the US to be with him. So I decided to give him one last chance to fess up....I asked him directly if he has had any contact... even as much as talking with another woman since we decided to get back together. "NOOOOOOO" he says. He swore even on his child's life that he hasnt done anything with anyone since we got back together in July. The lies keep sinking him deeper and deeper into the pit of no return...lol
Plus I find that he's signed up at classmates.com with a NEW name?? Like a whole new identity?? I cant seem to figure that one out. It has a different name and high school but it's linked to his email? Any ideas on that one?
so it's basically over for us. I tried...that's my two cents. ugh

Hate to sound like Miss Negativity (cuz I'm usually not) but at sites such as Classmates.com and others, you can "create" a new identity which will help "confirm" that you are who you SAY you are (but not who you really are). For example, you can be younger/older, or located in a different part of the country, etc.. Whatever suits your story. Hopefully there is a better reason, though...

Have you asked your H if he would share his password with you? Mutual trust thing, maybe? And then maybe you could dialogue about what you saw without him knowing you were snooping...

I had no clue he even knew how to USE email til the other day I sent a pic of our daughter to him and others and he asked if I had "just" sent it because he was checking his email. I was like "I didnt know you GOT email. He didnt respond.

I am very scared about what I found at classmates.com. I cant get past thinking what could he have been doing creating something like a different person? I've gone into that site and tried to figure it out but I dont get it.

I talked to him again lastnight and he just keeps saying how he needs me with him to support him in life. How can this be when he's living so scandalous behind my back? I seriously think he DOES want us...but he wants that whacked out stuff TOO.
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