My marriage has been over for 4 years, but it was just recently final due to him dragging his feet with everything even though he has been living with GF for 2 years. (15 years) I chose to stay alone and make my children #1 priority to make sure they got through this without too much damage so far so good and to take time to heal myself and get to where I need to be. I have met a wonderful man and can't believe how much I was missing he is everything I have dreamed of and I think he was sent from heaven. I have been happier then I have ever been in my whole life and feel truly blessed. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> Exh life is falling apart and he has some emotional/behavior problems along with what I beleive is manic depression, he has found out about my happiness and is trying to ruin everything he says he is taking a small job and quiting the one he has so he doesn't have to give me the amount of support I need to survive,harrassing me on the phone, showing up at my home, making me go to his mothers to get the child support giving me bad checks so I have to chase him around for it and basically causing me emotional distress just because he is insanely jealous of my happiness! How do I deal with him? All I want to do is go on with my life and be happy <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

You probably need legal advice.

You have proven that the best revenge is living well. See, you don't really need him, and this is freaking him out. He never thought you'd find someone else. Wrong again. He has just been wrong about everything, even cheating on you with the OW. Guess he was wrong about that too. Guess the fog just lifted, oh well too late, the OW can have him because YOU ARE DOING GREAT!!!!!!!!!!! You go girl!!

Now if you are afraid of him, you may need a restraining order. If he is a really bad guy, you need some outside help, self defense class? You need to assess your risk. Does he have a gun? Is he so unstable that he is the murder/suicide type. Do not take this lightly. Maybe a big dog? Good luck.

Try to avoid him as much as possible and have a go between. I'm sure you have been trying. Good luck. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Sounds like a No Contact Order and Wage Garnishment to me... The No Contact Order you'll need a Lawyer for - but - You can do the Wage Garnishment without a Lawyer - just contact Child Support Enforcement in your city - it's run by the State and regulated by the US Government. He tries to sidestep anything, he will be held in Contempt of Court - and all this with NO lawyers. If he does not comply, the Court will 'decide' an amount for him and he won't like it! Trust me, I know... I'm an Obligor Parent, and I've paid my share, and know this also - it DOES work! There is NO hiding from the long arm of CSED...
Harold