Stbx, Deucey, brings son back tonight. He walks right in and once again comments on how good the place looks and how my decorating ability is good.

Anyway, he gives me along w/bag of toys that son brought with him to his house a large piece of cake (ha ha ha he's a cakeman ha ha ha), a rotisserie chicken, and tells me that we should enjoy that. He celebrated his grandma's 85th birthday complete w/a glittering family reunion @ his house so everyone would admire? and adore? him and see how "good" of a person he is.

Anyway, he looks me dead in the eyes and says this: "If you are the person you say you are and really pray and believe all that then why can't you just let this go and accept everything and just be my friend and quit with this bitterness and non acceptance?". He kept walking towards me while saying it and i kept backing away. Wierded me out. I said that "Yes I believe it and no I have accepted our impending divorce and that I am not simply going to alter my belief system to make him feel better. Said then that "I have accepted my faults and limitations and worked on them." He then said that my feelings have made our son become affected. I burned. Then I said as I moved forward and directed him to the door politely that it was he who's actions have affected our son and that he is either in denail or a liar in need of some serious spiritual renewal or help professionally if he believes everything he's done is good or fine".

He then said "don't you know I don't miss you?" I said sure I do. And we shall see if you eat those words in 2003 baby.

He stormed out. The fog exited my home as he left.

He is lost and so wrong. He wants desperately to "be friends" now as he has "so moved on". Fog talk. I am sticking to my guns. Plan B. Extremely limited contact as per only son. I said to him again tonight that I didn't want to do anything or have anything and no contact with him unless he sought both professional help and had a spiritual awakening and changed his morality and marriage beliefs.

I know he won't. He is too far gone. But I am gonna pray for him. Pray that he can at least one day find God. I still remember how the man told me the other day that he knew God. Along with the garbage that he even knew of ministers who divorced.

For eye openers, read gloryb.com and philanderers.com to find out more about liars and foggy ones. It will open your eyes and help us as we pursue new relationships. IF I had only known a few years ago what I know now. They even had tips about how not to get caught cheating on philanderers.com. And a dating introduction service online to find partners who WANT to have affairs with married people. It made me sick but allows me now to see more clearly this sickness they have and how it destroys the soul.

If you are here and your marriage deserves a fighting chance, read there. Find out how our enemies think and combat it. Use MB principles as the weapon. And pray. But learn the tricks of the enemy. I was so blind it was scary.

Let me know guys what you think ok? I want this info to get out to the ones here I am praying for and all of you. I want the coming year to hold marriage restorations for some of us here. We can
t compromise. We can't back down. We have to do all we can for our families whether restoration or divorce is the result.

God bless you all and Merry Christmas.

np(not sure of your abbreviation...help me on this one?)-

I've read some of your posts, not sure if you've read any of mine, nor does that matter. But I want to share a few things with you, if you don't mind!?

Given the fact that I am WH who has betrayed W with EA's/PA's and in the fog for the better part of 2 years, I have worked very hard to NOT be the man you describe in this post! Yes, a man like your WH was I, but I have turned my face unto the the Lord and exercise with deepest conviction to stay my course with HIM, everyday! For so many reasons and excuses I can lay claim to my lies, deceit, fraud, and Satanic qualities! I was a walking lie! I'll spare YOU the BS!

I don't know anything of the sites you are referring to, for I could have started my own .COM and became filthy rich...When I allowed Satan in (he hasn't been around for almost 3 months...I DON'T MISS HIM EITHER <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ) I was, just ask my W, one of the most soft spoken, conniving, manipulative, attractive ( I'm not a narcicist!), articulate Scums this side of the Anti-Christ. I HATE (I can use this term as biblical vernacular & effect) this man! He died on 12/12/02. On that date, Christ was born into JDA! A NEW man, a new creation of branch to be grafted into the vine!

I hope and pray that, as much as I am only sharing words with you, that you can SEE that God does work IN US who believe IN HIM, those of us who are lost in the wilderness! I believe, and I have changed! ALL praise and glory be his!

I want you to know that I am praying RIGHT NOW for your H to turn his life over to OUR personal Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ!

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter!

Thanks for reading, letting me share <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

In Christ's Name, I speak!
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<small>[ February 03, 2003, 07:08 PM: Message edited by: Sauron ]</small>

Hi Peachy,
Ditto to Harold's post. Stick to it!!
I have been legally divorced now for 15 months, and my ex still gets under my skin. He too, is in a relationship and has been since last March. My kids have not met her yet, and at this point, are still not ready to.

But my ex still drives me crazy. I have absolutely NO contact with him unless he has a question about the kids, or is picking them up. That's it!! My hope is that this person is he dating will see the "real him" before it is too late. he can't be faithful to anyone, and he is not being faithful to her either. A real slime!!
Hang in there Peachy!! Things get better, i am such a different person than i was a year and a half ago, finally have peace in my life.
becky

Notpeachy-

Obviously I didn't read thoroughly enough to see as Sauron pointed out that you have a son and not a daughter, as I thought! shame, shame, shame! Sorry

Thank you for sharing!

In Christ's Name!
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