Our court date was sept 9th. He ruled for her to pay have of all credit cards and half property taxes. ordered me to pay child support and half of our son's insurance. I have been paying everything that i am supose to pay. She on the other hand has not paid one dime. The judge ordered her to pay in full at the time of the hearing. She started to cry in the judges chambers and said that she could not afford to pay it all at one time. My lawyer and I agreed to let her pay the taxes at the time of her tax return and also agreed for her to make payments of 100.00 per month until her half was paid. I payed my half off at the time of the hearing. I got a call from the credit card company last night telling me that the amount owned was already in collections. I asked when the last payment was made, they said that the last payment was when I payed half of the balance off back in sept. Why does people think that they don't have to do what the judge says? I remember back in my while we were divorced i was paying child support" not ordered support" but support that i thought my child needed. I was a week late one month and I recieved 10 calls from her and her mother calling me a dead beat dad.. Go figure.

Will she ever see that i am the one who is acting like an adult and not playing any games. I told her that i was tired of her playing games with me , and that I would let the courts handle it.
I called my lawyer today and told her what was going on, she said that if my ex had not paid and caught everything up by the end of the month that we would take her back to court.

Why why why . I hoped that when the divorce was over that all the games would stop. Guess i was wrong. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I made a type o..
I was suppose to say.
" I remember back in may when we were seperated, I was late with non ordered child support"

Sorry about that.
Just one more thing to add to my list of mistakes..lol

I understand where u are coming from. my x husband left me with an outragous light bill. ( it was in my name) when we got divorced the judge ordered him to pay half. plus child support ( court order) well i was getting calls from the light company and stuff. So i made copies of my divorce degree and sat down and highlighted the part that said he was to pay half. Well after six months of arguing with the bill collectors they stopped harrassing me and started on him. Now I am waiting for the state to pick him up on nonpayment of child support. he says he takes care of his son. he is so wrong. ( our son is 3 now) I started working 3 jobs to support me and my 3 kids (having another one within this month from another dead beat guy)anyway take copies of your divorce degree and highlight the parts that say she is to pay half and send it to them certified mail. that way you have proof that someone at the agency picked it up and signed for it. it might just work for you. let me knowhow things turn out okay. good luck with it.

Thanks for the reply. If I take her back to court can the have her aressted for contempt of court?
To be honest i think thats what she needs.

My XW has not honored the full scope of the visitation agreement since she moved 3 hours away with our 6 y.o. D 2 years ago. I filed contempt motions and it turns into a big charade with mediators and the like, a lot of money spent on lawyers, etc... I always thought Contempt was a big deal. I think the judges and family courts in this country are just numb to the things going on and don't give a dang. It's like the song "Rawhide". "Keep them dogies rollin...rawhide.....don't try and understand 'em...just rope 'em man and brand em'"

What a joke...I sit there on the bench watching the sheriffs strut around with shoulder patches that say "Truth...Honesty....Justice". Unless the woman is passed out on a park bench with a needle hangin' out of her arm, a lot of decent fathers get shafted.

Sorry for sounding more than cynical.

legal system is a joke. X was a cop til A cost him that job, now with Mobile county parole office. with military retirement he makes around $45,000. OW he lives with is a full time RN. our income til feb is under $800 then will be down to $490 month. I do not work because of illness & operations I need. You would think he would pay his court order dr & school bills for his only child. X is up to $1000. he knows if he only pays child support & spousal support they wont make him pay the rest. Thats Escambia Al. law. going though legal aide in fl. D was in Al. it will be moved down here after our appeal is over. I cant do it before it could mess appeal up. Im lossing $200 a month more child support while waiting. Legal aide in fl is asking Al legal aide to make him pay. It will take time, if Al wont do it, then Fl told me they would make him pay when I have the case moved here. Anything to do with the care of the child I can move here & they will go after X to pay. the last time X saw his son was in June 2002. X got joint custody, that will also be taken away from him. X has no contact with 13 1/2 yr old, no phone calls since 5/01. X got the standard visits but told our son he could only see him on Sundays. This will help our case, son will be asking the judge for a no visits with dad & no joint custody, Dad is out of his life now that he is engaged to OW. Ive heard from OW X, she is not paying her part either, they split the 3 kids 2 weeks each.

It just bothers me that it is a double standard with them. You have to pay what you were ordered to pay or your a dead beat, but they can do whatever they want. I know if I stopped paying she would have me in court the next month.
exw would always call her mother if did something that she thought was not right in her eyes. Her mother would call me and tell me off, Should i call her mother and tell her that her daughter is a dead beat and not paying her court ordered bills, or should i wait and let it go to court?