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was wondering if anyone knows if you can get divorced if activated/in time of war. i dont want to get divorced by the way.
thanks.
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I am not an expert. I know only what I have happened to hear in a conversation with an Army or Navy wife.
Her h is an active member of the armed forces. They are in the process of getting a divorce. She indicated that they could not finish it if he is shipped overseas.
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I'm active duty Marine Corps and the way I understand it is the Military member could technically file for D, but if the W did the H could stop it with the Soldiers and Sailors Act. A lawer farmiliar with military would be able to help, you can contact any base/post and talk to the legal section for more information.
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i do not want a divorce. WH wants one. was just wondering if he gets activated (he is army reserve) can he just up and divorce me.
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depending on what state you are in, you might have to have a maditory 12 mos seperation before you can file for divorse.
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My husband is in the army reserves and just got activated. He left and says he wants a divorce, but he's going to have to wait until he returns from the deployment to do anything. I am not sure but i think that any court proceedings or stuff like that gets put on hold. As far as i'm aware, my husband has not filed anything with the courthouse yet, and i still have hope that through letters i can change the situation and then maybe there's a chance he wont leave. I'm really hurting about the situation and it's killing me but really there's not much i can do since he wont talk to me about it. Right now i'm just hoping that he actually reads my letters and doesnt send them back. I have not sent him a letter yet, i have one written and i'm not sure when i'm going to send it. do you think your husband will change his mind too?
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not a quitter: i am so sad about him wanting a divorce from me. he has not been activated, or who knows if he will.
i do not want a divorce, he is living w/my ex so called friend, she is 22. i hope he will be changed inside and come back to our family.
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Yes he can divorce you. He is still required to do whatever it takes in your state. However, it may take longer because of deployment, simply because of him contacting lawyer.
Just being active duty is not going to slow anything down though.
The Soldiers and Sailors Act allows a military spouse stationed overseas to put a hold on a divorce filed by the spouse in the states. This helps prevent the military spouse from not being notified/involved in a divorce.
kuljey,
i hope he will be changed inside and come back to our family.
Are you changing inside so he will WANT to come back to your family?
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if he is living with your 22 year old friend are you sure you want him back?
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well, yea i do. i am just holding out hope he will come home to his family, not his gutter rat.
his sgt is not going to inform his commander of WH infidelities. hmmm.
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