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And it DRIVES me nuts.
I can barely look at the man who's ripped out my heart, stompped on it, and hurt me more than I thought possible.
He acts like he's just oh so happy with his life. and that he cares about me.
He says crap like guys will be lined up around the block to date me as soon as the divorce is final.
He makes me want to puke.
I've been trying to act like I'm happy and self confident (aka tough love style) ..... and I'm tired of it. I can't barely look at him anymore. He's not my friend.
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So Hurt: My WW and STBX seems to share the same thoughts. She believes we can be friends as well but no thanks. I feel the same as you. Why be friends with someone who has turned your life upside down and yes, ripped out your heart and jumped up and down on it a few times. When my WW brings our son home from visitation I can't hardly look at her nor do I have the desire to speak to her. I guess that is the way they think though. She walks through this like everything is fine and she did nothing wrong. I'm happy to get her out of my life though. They will realize one of these days. They want their cake and eat it to. Do like me and start rebuilding your life. You will find happiness out there. I have and I didn't think I would. Just tell him he made his choices and being friends is not included in that. If he wanted that he would have stayed and made the M work. That's what I told my STBXWW.
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As if you would choose a person with such low character to be your friend.
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This is a tough one and I too experience the same feelings.... It is especially hard where children are involved... and working with a PC/P she keeps telling me that in order to keep from screwing up the children you have to at least be civil... You do not have to have physical contact... I handle or try to handle all contact with my STBX through email. No voice or physical contact. I know that some day it will have to occur. Graduations, marriages etc, but right now I know the feelings....
Everyone talks about forgiving..... and it takes time to forgive... it takes time to mourn...
Tell the STBX it is strictly business... and that is it for now....
<small>[ March 13, 2003, 02:51 PM: Message edited by: GSN ]</small>
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