I have a question concerning my ex-wife, we were each others first and now she has experienced with someone else. I know we are divorced and this is the way it is, but it still hurts. I had an affair and I found out what it was like to be with someone else and the physical part is not what bothers me, it is she is doing things with this other person, that I wished she would have done with me. She only met this guy two weeks ago and has already gone on a weekend get away with him. Is this her way of acting out and exploring or is she really done with me? She says she feels done, but I just don't believe it. Am I really crazy?

Excuse me, Im not trying to be rude....but, arent yall divorced??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> That sounds like she is done to me. She would not have filed and served if she wasnt. JMHO!

hi I am sorry about your divorce. you said

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">,it is she is doing things with this other person, that I wished she would have done with me</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">well when you say that she is doing things,
are you referring to her going away with him?

or are you talking about sexual things?

I think you are divorced and not even being taken into consideration right now..it is painful but it is the truth..maybe you need to read Marriage builders things and take the tests etc and go from there if you thing you can get her to do the same..but..it to me looks like she is gone for now with this other man.

guess it might mean you need to move on..to.
I really am sorry but when the other makes up their mind sometimes you can't get them back.
then again sometimes you can only she sounds like she might be telling you things if your referring to the physical part of the relationship then ask yourself why is she doing it telling you other then to hurt you?

also why didn't she do those things for you if you are referring to physical things?

Maybe you need to go see a therapist to help you sort things out and get her into therapy too, or have you done that already..if you have then perhaps it really is over..

God bless you and keep on keeping on...

lghoping,

Try your best to rid these thoughts from your mind. It will drive you crazy. NOTHING good will come from you thinking about her with other people. BELIEVE ME - BEEN THERE! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Seriuosly, try your hardest to not give any energy to these thoughts. As soon as they pop in your head, get up and do something - anything - ask God to take the thoughts away.

You are NOT crazy - the thoughts come to us all (they used to come to me during our separation and divorce). I'm willing to think they come to us men more than the women because it is in our nature. But like I said, they will serve no purpose to you. TRY your best not to dwell on them...

Mike