Even though its over and we're just boarders under the same roof she's still grinding the same old axes, she cant let anything go and move on, I'm SO GLAD i decided to end this hell ride,and to think i was up for a whole lifetime of whinning, witching and controlling attitude problems from her. what makes them SO BITTER??

What set her off?

Today she is having her family over for a dinner, i have to work saturdays,she has decided that she's only doing HER chores in the house,ONLY HER dishes, wash, ETC, which is fine, she works ONE job and she's done at 5PM, she doesnt cook for our daughter, I DO,I WORK 2 jobs,and I do MY chores late at night when I can, her big thing was she's OFF on Friday nights, so I took OFF last night too, but it seems I left some dishes in the sink she needs for a dinner party, OH WELL, I'm OFf Friday nights too, so since I have to go in at 7am today you better wash the dishes if you need them, she was HOT,my work load has tripled because she refuses to lift a finger in our house, she's bitter about being canned and she's ON STRIKE, even though our daughter has to live in filth she's going to drive home her point, what ever THAT is, I can clean the house just fine my self, but since she was having company today i wanted to see if she would clean or grind an AX about it, guess I got my answer. She's spitefull, nasty and bitter like she's been for years, and i warned her I would not stay married to her if she didnt loose the attitude problem. i'll admit i'm no house keeper, but my 2 kids have clean clothes and a meal every night,and i'm up 'till 1am most nights doing my best, she's in bed by 10pm with her AX grinding away, its funny though, most days the house looks like it always did or better, except for today, since I can work 2 jobs and do OK it really makes me wonder what she did all these years, if I had the time she had to do the house it would be great, I'm really thinking I did the right thing.The fact that I can keep it ALMOST as good as it alway was tells me how LAZY she was.

The last few weeks have been great, i havn't been called a " taxi service" in over three weeks!!{ my 16 yr old daughter asks me to do the mall shuttle on visit weekends and it really used to burn my wifes butt,} since i dont see my daughter much I was happy to do it for her and her friends, their all honor students and great kids,and i think that deserves a reward,they have respect and they are fun kids. my wife hated the whole intrusion of it all, I didnt see any big deal about it, she hated being " obligated" to it, but since SHE wasnt driving there I didnt see how she was obligated!!
my visits with my kids have been peacefull and there's no tension from her attitude anymore, even my kids are thrilled for me, my daughter cant wait for me to meet a " nice woman" to spend the rest of my life with, [ my daughter is 16} I told her I'm in NO HURRY, THANKS!!!
my EX wife, {wife #1} is even thrilled, she was ready to have a street brawl with wife #2 over her bad attitude with my kids, she's even friendly to me again. She was in my house several times over the years picking up the kids, and she told me that the house was a dive inside, she wanted to know what my wife did everyday!!!Even my family is glad, its funny how no one said anything untill i pulled the plug, now i hear how NO ONE cared for wife #2 becaues of her strange ways, who KNEW???!!!! :]

How sad..

forty,
It sounds as if she is so bitter as she knows she is about to lose a great man. I know a man that lived in a similiar situation - for TEN LOOOOONG YEARS. Also my step-father did the same thing w/ my mom "for the sake of my sister" until the day she started college.

Both of these were great men. The one now SG also worked 2 FT jobs, cleaned house, kept the yard, and did all the ironing. She wouldn't even let him get a car, even though she got both his paychecks.

My step-father and the other SG are now both happy. Their only regret was that they wasted so many years. Even my sister wished her father would have divorced our mom a long time ago.

Sounds as if you are a great guy and dad. Keep your chin up. Be happy and live a good life. Try not to let her get to you. tew

Tew... thanks for the kind words, i stuck with this 5 years longer than i should have,but I didnt want to lose my little girl in a court battle that i know i stand a good chance of losing,but I cant allow my daughter to grow up in an unhappy home,I wanted to work side by side with my wife to end this peacefully and show my daughter both our good sides, and make this an easy going split so my daughter would not be so sad and worked over by it all, but the wife is making that very hard.i'm forced to sell the home that two of my kids came home to at birth and its very sad for all of us, the worst part is we have not yet told my little girl, and my heart so breaks for her, i know it will crush her, I wanted to be there for her but her mom cant seem to work past all her issues in life and get along with us all, she's just plan hatefull about life anymore, and she cant accept the fact that things will not be going her way. If i were a bitter hatefull person like her she'd be in big trouble, because she pushes all the right buttons. its a good thing i can walk away.