attractive girls, women. I really want to know if this is common for all men, as my exH would have me believe. I just cannot accept that all men lust after every young beautiful female he sees. I just don't know if I can accept this. In trying to understand this... i try to imagine how a man would view, engage, our daughters in the community. Are there no men out there who are not constantly consumed with the idea of sex? If this were true then society should never trust men in positions of authority and especially should never be left alone with young women, ever. Not a father, not a councellor, teacher, officerl, shoe salesman, dentist, etc... Men please respond and show me that there are good, integral men out there... Deep inside my heart of hearts, I know that there are wholesome, pure men who look at young women with appreciation and honor. Who would protect our young women from harm, whether it be from others or themselves. Recently, i saw a paramedic help a young beautiful woman who, obviously, had too much to drink. She was extremely vulnerable. His kindness, regard and respect was very honorable. This is what i wanted in my marriage... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

As sad as it is to say, I think a lot of men think what you are saying. It's not an excuse, but it seems like human nature for guys to think of sex more then women. Testosterone maybe?

Me personally, I do tend to think of it once in a while but that's it. When people cross the boundaries is where the trouble starts. That's where I think most men don't even cross the line but the few who do give us a bad rep.

I highly respect women even though my W is/was having an A and I would never imagine taking advantage of someone.

Sometimes I think of if there are good, loyal women who want genuine nice guys since my W has tainted my views of women.

Well,

Young, attractive women are always going to attract a lot of attention from men. It's human nature. Most guys who are committed will probably just look and not act on anything. Males are generally visually stimulated.

I highly doubt that most women aren't attracted to young attractive men either.

I think that young women are more likely to seek older men than young men seeking older women.

I don't think that it is out of the ordinary for a man to be attracted to a young attractive woman, however, acting on the attraction within a committed relationship is another story.

Could ask the same thing to women about men; both genders are fairly sexualized don't you think? Whatever the context of your question... surely you know the answer.

Whoever is telling you this is an idiot and you should check the source of this information in the context of any other outstanding issues in his life... y'know, whatever they might be: infidelity, road rage, fixation on foreign films, etc.

Good luck to you in avoiding this path you're stepping onto of loathing all men everywhere.

<small>[ July 24, 2003, 04:18 PM: Message edited by: Lyxa ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I think that young women are more likely to seek older men than young men seeking older women.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Excuse me but I hate this…..

I hate the fact that so many men think that they just get better as they get older but women should be just thrown away……

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I hate the fact that so many men think that they just get better as they get older but women should be just thrown away…… </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I think what it is, is that younger women have a higher desire for what they perceive to be more "mature" men (usually older) which is equated with age then guys do for older women.

I think older women are less likely to fall for what they think are the less mature, stable and experienced guys (younger) then the older guys are.

I don't think older women should be thrown away. After all, isn't it that women like a fine wine only get better with age? And experience for that.

<small>[ July 24, 2003, 05:09 PM: Message edited by: Eduard ]</small>

do all men sexualize all young do all men sexualize all young attractive girls, women
No.

The words "all, none, never, always" should be used VERY, VERY sparingly.

I don't *ALL* anybody *always* does anything...but there are some generalities that seem to apply frequently.

And here, again, is the CAVEMAN theory on physical attraction:

Since in pre-historic times, it was truly 'eaten or be eaten', the genders have looked at potential mates that have certain qualities. Men look for young, nubile, fertile women to help them propogate the species.

Women, on the other hand, look for older 'I survived the Ice Age of 2mil BC' kind of men...men who have obviously outwitted the t-rex longer and haven't starved to death yet, thusly, being able to help the women stay alive as well.

It's a reptilian brain kind of instinct thing that the media and society continues to perpetuate.

That is the end of the lecture---there wll be a quiz tomorrow. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I don't *ALL* anybody *always* does anything...but there are some generalities that seem to apply frequently.

And here, again, is the CAVEMAN theory on physical attraction:

Since in pre-historic times, it was truly 'eaten or be eaten', the genders have looked at potential mates that have certain qualities. Men look for young, nubile, fertile women to help them propogate the species.

Women, on the other hand, look for older 'I survived the Ice Age of 2mil BC' kind of men...men who have obviously outwitted the t-rex longer and haven't starved to death yet, thusly, being able to help the women stay alive as well.

It's a reptilian brain kind of instinct thing that the media and society continues to perpetuate.

That is the end of the lecture---there wll be a quiz tomorrow. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">AHHHHH now you’re just making me mad…….

1st I don’t know how many of you are Christians (or really any faith besides atheism or agnostic) but if you do believe in a faith most of them teach that man is more than just a set of biological instincts.

2nd Even if you do believe in evolution then, from what I’ve been told, it’s not the established old man with a low sperm count that the nubile young teenager is looking for but instead she will take her fertile ovaries and seek out the strongest and most virile man (or MEN) she can find. NOT the old geezer in the cave….

Sometimes I think that men get off on the stereotype, you know…you better keep to your place or I’ll trade you in………

JustWondering,

Here is why I made the statement that young women will more likely seek older men than young men seeking older women....it is true.

Men are more attracted to what is appealing to the eye than women are. Women are more attracted to the mind.

Yes, it is a generality, but look at most couples. In most cases, the guy is older than the girl...even if it is just a year or two.

If you don't like it, well, that is fine....I'm a Christian so don't even bring that up.

By the way....I married an older woman...even if it was just 3 months older. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I am a married man almost age 40.

I enjoy seeing young attractive women.

But when it comes to sex I would rather be with an older experienced woman.

Just last night a young girl about 17 was selling stuff door to door. She had on a tight shirt and tight jeans and I will admit it made me alittle horny. But I could never imagine having sex with her.

Due to the fact that I have a daughter of my own I think it has helped me stop lusting after younger women.

wondering,

I could've made you madder...how about 'older men seem to be attracted to women who are disgustingly younger than them in a sick, pathetic attempt to avoid growing up and trying to recapture the days when they had hair, didn't have a paunch and women their own age still pretending something they said was worth listening to." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> ) but if you do believe in a faith most of them teach that man is more than just a set of biological instincts.

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You'd sure never know it from SOME of them...please note..I said SOME.

Hoping, well said. And, no, 3 months doesn't count...sorry!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I enjoy seeing young attractive women.

But when it comes to sex I would rather be with an older experienced woman.

Just last night a young girl about 17 was selling stuff door to door. She had on a tight shirt and tight jeans and I will admit it made me alittle horny. But I could never imagine having sex with her.

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My point exactly. And while you may 'rather be with an older woman' when it comes to sex...you probably wouldn't mind have the young thing around for eye candy. But most men don't even THINK about how it makes us 'older experienced' women feel when they drool all over Pamela Anderson and all her clones. I've yet to hear even my h who says I am hot to him, look at me and go 'wow, look at the crow's feet on you,baby". We have to figure the if you find THAT attractive and we are not THAT, then we must be unattractive. Women's self-esteem is very wrapped up in their looks.

Yes, wondering, we say it because it seems to be true.

Pamela Anderson is just "eye candy" now, she has Hepatitis C <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> So you at least have one advantage over her (I hope).

It's societies view point that puts so much emphasis on looks and looking like Britney Spears. And women's insecurities are exploited with this. I know good looking people (my WW included) who always think they don't look good WHEN CLEARLY THEY DO! And even telling them they do has little to no effect.

I agree that sometimes us Men forget to reinforce our physical attractedness to you, but don't ask us to do it every other day <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> And if and when we do, please try to at least accept the compliment.

Shoot, my ego is in the gutter thinking about OM being 11 yrs older and going bald and not in shape. Guys have complexes too.