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Joined: Aug 2003
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Joined: Aug 2003
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HELLO EVERYBODY,
AS I POSTED A FEW DAYS AGO MY W HAD AN AFFAIR WITH A COWORKER. I ENDED THAT I THINK.
NOW SHE'S MOVING OUT SATURDAY 8/9. W HAS FOUND A PLACE ABOUT 40 MILES FROM HOME. W WANTS A DIVORCE.
SAYS SHE DOESN'T LOVE ME ANYMORE. FINDS ME UNATTRATIVE. WANTS TO BE INDEPENDENT AND DO WHAT EVER SHE WANTS TO DO. DO THINGS PEOPLE HER AGE DO.
SHE'S 23. YESTERDAY WHILE SHE WAS PACKING SOME OF HER THINGS I BEGAN TO CRY. SHE SHOWED NO FEELINGS ALL SHE SAID WAS I'M SORRY I DOING THIS TO MAKE MYSELF HAPPY.
I NEED SOME ADVICE.
1.SHOULD I FILE FOR DIVORCE TO PROTECT MY FINANCIAL FUTURE.
2.WHAT IS PLAN B
3.WHEN SHE MOVES OUT SHOULD I BE THE ONE THAT INITIATES CONTACT OR SHOULD I WAIT UNTIL SHE DOES.
I HONESTLY DONT WHAT TO SEE OR HEAR FROM HER UNTIL SHE'S READY TO BE WITH ME. I FEEL LIKE IF SHE DOESN'T HEAR OR SEE ME SHE WILL MISS ME AND WANT TO COME HOME. ON THE OTHER HAND SHE COULD JUST ME SOMEONE ELSE AND FORGET ABOUT ME.
I'M SO CONFUSED ANY ADVICE WOULD BE GREAT.
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Joined: Jun 2003
Posts: 147
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Hey Trod. I feel for you. I'm in the same boat. The only thing that I can advise is that you can fill out a separation agreement which is a binding contract that states any debt accumulated from this point on would be separated and not shared.
I would recommend also that you wait til she contacts you. Someone told me about this book called, "Love must be tough" by James Dobson which I already ordered online. Reviews look good. It just might help. Good luck to you!
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Joined: Mar 2002
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Welcome to the forum Trod. I really don't think you're ready for this board yet, because first of all, you're still married and still love your wife. I would urge you to post on the GQII board. You will find lots of folks there who are in the exact same situation that you are and can offer you help and support while you seek to reconcile with your wife. It's too early to give up. The Plan B experts are on that board and will help you with that as well. I'll look for you there. Please don't type in all caps...makes your post hard to read LOL. Good luck.
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