74 total number of days from when my wife said she wanted a divorce to the day that it was final.

I didnt want the divorce, but my wife didnt want to go to counseling or any work at it one bit. she supposedly had been unhappy keeping it inside for 7 months without telling me.

Is she in the "fog" that i have heard so much about on this website?

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Married 3 years, Together for 4 years
No Kids
Me - 27
Wife - 26

I dont know exactly, but Im sure mine was less than 90days........it was probably about the same as you.......2.5 months. Alot of times people make quick...split decisions only to regrett the hell outta it later on. Sorry to hear about what happened, but Ive been there. "Its over, I want a divorce"..........a couple of months later its over. Im remarried, so its all good though. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

now this one's funny!

How about a couple???

42 times in court so far -- no end in sight. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Over $30,000 in legal fees. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

finding out that not only was he sleeping with one person, but many during the time we were going to *marriage* counselling. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

discovering that he was having sex without protection (because he told the women he was *safe* because he had a vasectomy) and continued to make love to me....
<img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

...oh and many more! It's painful, but even more so when you have children. I could say all the same thing that your friends are saying..."You're young....you have your whole life ahead of you.....she doesn't deserve you....there's more fish in the sea..."

Bottom line is it sucks. I'm so very sorry that this happened to you. And yes...the fog hangs on for a long time for many. Work on yourself. Focus on YOU and what you can do to make your life better. Go to counselling. Reach out to friends and ask for their support. Cry. Mourn. Do whatever you have to in order to get to tomorrow....and the next day...and the next.
{{{{{{hugs}}}}} from an oldie.

Well, I've been divorced for 19 months now and the ex doesn't know it yet.

Once my x stopped screwing around (legally with me), our dv took 10 working days to process in her state.

How about this one--

Granted it's not about a divorce taking a short time---just the oppostite..

I have a friend whose is going through a divorce..
her stbx is dragging out the process for money reasons (doesn't want her to get any)...yet..he went and 'married' someone else while still married--

He is telling everyone 'she' is holding up the divorce--

Go figure..she would have been divorce a couple years ago...