My ex has been gone for more than two years, moved 4,000 miles away with her BF to start their new life. Ok and fine.

In that time, I have had contact with a female only once and that was not sexual intercourse, though we did kiss a lot. I have been missing that very badly lately.
My ex and I almost never kissed, save for a peck for goodnight and maybe before we left for work. I miss it very much. I want to find the woman I love and hold her hand and sit on the couch and just have a makeout session. Damnit, I am lonely.

Just to feel her hand in mine and to feel her lips against mine, now that is good medicine!!!!!!

It has been a long time. Anyone else feel as I do?

God Bless,
Andy

I hear ya, brother.... The ironic thing is that what I miss in a relationship is what I never really had. The kissing, cuddling, chatting, walking hand in hand, long deep stares for no reason, and all that other "Non-Macho" stuff". I, too, had a brief encounter with a friend that was nothing more that what I mentioned above.

As the days go by I feel myself slipping further down the slope of living my days out as a bachelor. But on the other hand, I believe that I can accept that, even though I crave a "TRUE LOVE" relationship......

Well buddy, I ain't gonna kiss you but how about this ( NTWBTWBD )))))))))))))))))))) Sorry man right arm is getting strong after 2+ years......

Amen to that. I need something.

I'm having a VERY rough day.. today is our anniversary... Dv isn't final yet, but should be soon. Feeling VERY alone.

(((((((((((((((((((((SoHurt)))))))))))))))))

If it's any help, as time goes by the lonliness fades, atleast it did for me. It went from a burning need to a controllable desire......

Please do something "Good" for yourself tonight.

Hugs, Thoughts, & Prayers

Thanks for not kissing me, Bill. I am not quite that lonely!!!!

I am becoming a real bachelor, too, but I do not like it in the least. I have done the alone thing for a good portion of my life and I really enjoyed being married and do NOT like at all being single.

so hurt, I know how you feel and it does suck in a big way. As Bill said above, it does get easier with time. In my case, however, while I have stopped missing my exwife, after two years, I am now very ready for real female companionship, and not just a friend, but a real life companion who wants to share all I have to give....A WIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I hope that this day goes ok for you......maybe some Haagen Dasz is in order tonight.

God Bless You,
Andy

Me too!!!!

I have faith that there is some one out there for me, and that I am to wait for that person to come my way!!!! But I am tired of waiting and I want that someone now!!!! I am looking forward to getting to know someone, the anticipation thing was always a biggy for me!!!

Many times I feel very bummed! I've lost over 70 lbs this past year, went down 4 sizes and nothing no one!!!! Not even anybody trying to set me up!!!

I want that first Kiss so badly I can taste it!!!!

Oh well, life goes on!!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I'll just say flat out- I miss sex. It has been almost a year. I want to wait this time til I get married, but man oh man, I crave it. I have kissed 2 men since my divorce. One was a man 20 years older than me that I work with and oh my goodness, tongue down the throat crazy kissing...It was the weirdest thing and now I get physically ill feeling when I smell his cologne at work. EWWWWWWWWWWWWWW. Stupid move for adgirl.
2nd is this guy that I have known for about 3 months. He is a wonderful kisser. The problem? I am so emotional still, and he is still also reeling from an ex-girlfriend, so right now we are just friends- and when I see him, I ACHE for him to kiss me. He did a few weeks ago but man oh man, I want to kiss and kiss.

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. sorry about all that- can you tell I am really missing male companionship?!

up

Heh heh heh... be VERY careful now...

I absolutely agree with EVERYTHING posted here. I missed the companionship... I missed the physical relationship... I MISS sex. I am so very afraid that I completely overthink about everything I do with someone.

I want to ensure that I don't mistake the love of kissing someone with love of the person. I want to ensure that I don't mistake the missing and fulfillment of being with someone with being with the RIGHT someone.

It is when these needs are met individually that we tend to get into trouble, at least I feel this is the case quite often.

But who am I to talk. I met a great woman who I am thinking about constantly. So I try to think critically about her as well. What am I liking? What needs is she fulfilling? What am I doing for her? What is she seeing in me?

Wow...

It makes you wish there was a 'club' that you could go to and have these needs met and it NOT be immoral... and it NOT be wrong... and it NOT be harmful to your health, both physically and emotionally. That there was some 'time out' kissing, hugging, needs meeting that could be fulfilled...

Heh heh heh... but then, why would you try to do things 'right'. Why would anyone seek responsibility if all they had to do was 'give a call'...

Oh man oh man... do I know what you guys are feeling. I have had some very important needs met lately and it scares me to death. I want to be as sure as possible that my choices are good for us all. But wow... she sure can kiss. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ September 13, 2003, 01:37 PM: Message edited by: Formerly Confused ]</small>

Ok, I second it. I miss sex. Not the 12 minutes from the first kiss till the x put his underwear back on and pulled his pillow back over his head. I miss long sex - the kind that isn't over till I say it is.

I miss companionship.

And I miss sleeping in the arms of a man who loves me.

Don't know if I'll ever marry again. Don't worry about that. I just have to do the best job I can with my life.

But, sometimes I dream.......

I miss the hugs, and being held all night long. I miss those tender kisses that said I love you and you mean the world to me, without saying any words at all. I miss the taste of his lips. I miss his smell too. Gosh the weekends are long sometimes.

Jen <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

<small>[ September 14, 2003, 01:29 AM: Message edited by: Jen Brown ]</small>

((((((((((TO ALL OF YOU))))))))))))

Sent with Love, Ladysheep

I find it interesting that so many of us on here did not experience basic affection in the marriage. I know I was starved for it, and X refused to even hug.
I'm still numb and don't miss sex, but I do miss kissing.
As far a hugging, my divorce support group is good for that. There was a party last night, and I loaded up for a while. I haven't been to any meetings or events in a while, but it's such a comfortable group of people that you can relax and express these types of feelings with others who know how you feel. A great outlet.

I know I will find a wonderful relationshp in the future. I have the vision. I also know that I am not ready yet. I still have baggage to unload. I am excited about the possibilities.

One suggestion..

Don't get so set in your bachelor ways, that you forget to allow love into your lives..and be willing to make some changes when that someone special comes into your life..

If you don't have children, then maybe get a pet
that can help you continue to learn to care for something outside yourself..and your work--

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{ANDY}}}}}}}}}}}}}}


I know so much how you feel...and 2 years is such a long time to have that desire for someone to hold and kiss. Get out and about..it will come when you are not looking for it.

You are in my thoughts and prayers

Smiles,
Dawn

<small>[ August 30, 2004, 10:45 PM: Message edited by: sunrise1 ]</small>

Thank you very much, Dawn. I am glad for you that you are having fun <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> in that department.

The weekends are SOOOOOOO darn long, and I feel very alone. However, I have taken to praying for other people's relationships, because if I cannot have the love I want right now I feel that I should be praying for other people.

Thank you for the hug and go get some smooches!!!!

(((((((Dawn)))))))

God Bless you,
Andy

All,
I am not D'd yet. She's filed and I refuse to sign, BUT, I know where you are all coming from. The last time I had meaningful sex w/my W was Oct '02. We had sex in Apr '03 ("I have needs and I am going to use you.", said W).
I definitely miss the sex, but I also enjoyed "spooning" in the buff with her at night. I have always been an affectionate man and showered her with it as much as possible. Problem was I did npt find out what type of affection she needed. I believe highly in PDAs (Public Displays of Affection), but she did not.
As for kissing, I truly miss that because we haven't kissed for over 2-3 years at least. I have crooked teeth and this turns her off. Also, she says I don't know how to kiss. Don't think that is true, about not knowing how to kiss because the OW (sorry) enjoyed my kissing. My stomach just turned thinking about her (sorry again). As for my W and my teeth, well, that's just one of her top ENs (PA), now I understand. I am working on that though. For her, Yes, but more for me.
I digress because thinking about how much I miss companionship w/my W makes me sad. I regain my sanity by thinking that I am going through this as God's Will. I have been telling everyone who will listen to NEVER, EVER, EVER, have an Affair.

Anyway. I miss holding my wife and smelling her smells (all over), massaging her (all over), stroking her (all over). whew...
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> TIME FOR A COLD SHOWER.

May God Bless all of us with His Love by giving us the mate we were intended to be with forever.

TTSMM

<small>[ September 19, 2003, 01:39 PM: Message edited by: tryingTOsaveMYmarriage ]</small>

Glad you are here, TTSMM. I think that being sorry to your wife and God for your affair is a good thing, but you do not need to sorry to us.

The companionship is also one of the things I miss the most. Not just the companionship of anyone, but that of my exw before her change into the stranger-woman.

I think that you should post your story on another thread, because I am sure that many people would have good insight to your situation.

God Bless, Andy

NMWBTWBD,
I have posted at other threads; see my signature for those.
Yes, companionship is something I truly miss. Like tonight, I rented the Lion King 2 and watched it with the kids while she was upstairs. Seeing the lions nuzzle, etc. got me homesick for my W's affections. In fact, everytime I see any displays of affection on TV or in real life, I feel depressed. I think about all the intimacy I have missed over the past year plus (talking, holding hands, sharing feelings, etc.).
As a quick aside, believe it or not, my most important EN is Admiration. I enjoy knowing that my efforts and actions are appreciated.
Now back to the topic KISSING........ God made us wanting to express our love and sexuality with a mate and that aint happening now, BUT Not my will, but His will be done!

God Bless us all in our pursuit of LOVE!
TTSMM

<small>[ September 19, 2003, 08:51 PM: Message edited by: tryingTOsaveMYmarriage ]</small>