Yes, I am considering writing a letter to my wife's OM - telling him what I think of his stupidity.<BR>Check out my posts all over this Discussion Board (My wife had an affair...... etc.)<P>Had enough of him and want to get it thru to him what he has done to our family..<P>To OM,<P>I am glad that you have finally come to your senses and realised that you will be getting nowhere by even thinking of continuing your "friendship" as you have called it with my wife.<P>It was with joy that I found out last week that you too now have left the company that both of you worked for - one good step in the right direction, thats for sure - the further away from my wife the better for both of you and for your poor wife too.<P>I am sure that you will be delighted to know that this affair has been the main reason for ny son, who you know so very well, yes, remember him - that saw the two of you kissing it up in the park last summer - that he only just scraped thru Grade 11 after having to deal with the trauma that you subjected him to. He had to drop two subjects this year so as to "scrape" thru by the end of the year.<BR>No, I am not saying that your rather unthinking and uncaring actions by sitting in a public park in broad daylight, smooching it up with my wife, and then the lovely expensive Christmas gift of a 14 karat gold bracelet, and your continuing insistance of staying in contact with my wife was the sole cause of his downfall at school, but I just wonder what it would have been like if he had not been subjected to this nonsense and the way that you influenced my wife.<BR>No, I am also not saying that you were the sole party in this affair either, it takes two to tango, but I wonder how much better my wife would have been today if you had been just the "friend" you claim to be?<BR>Does a friend poison a lady like my wife against her husband. Does a friend agree to allow my wife to change the mailing address for her cellfone bill to YOUR mailing address so that I cannot see who she has been calling on her cellfone - THREE MONTHS AFTER THE AFFAIR HAS SUPPOSEDLY ENDED?<BR>Does a friend stand in a mall parking lot and challenge a woman's husband, telling him that he is treating his wife like a child, three months after the affair has ended - when all the husband was looking for was openness and honesty?<BR>Does a true friend turn around to a husband and tell him that he's sorry that MORE didnt happen between his wife and you, just so as to teach him a lesson?<BR>I feel so very very sorry for your wife and children - it is no wonder that she has been a nervous wreck for so many years of her life - it makes me wonder how many other woman you have conned and hoodwinked in your life into believing that you are their "friend" that will help them sort out their ailing marriages.<BR>I wish you the best of luck in your future endeavours wherever they may be and honestly hope for both our sakes, and the sakes of our wives, that our paths never cross.<BR>With a bit of luck and lots of hard work, I am sure that between my wife and myself, we can save our marriage, despite the fact that right now she feels like an absolute heel, and not worthy to be a mother and a wife.<P>Would you good people out there consider this a reasonable letter to give a person who still considers that he did no wrong by "befriending" my wife - and it was only a mistake that they happened to make love, and be caught like a pair of senseless teenagers, kissing in a public park, in full view of everyone, practically in the city center and only a few miles away from our home?<P><BR>Lets hear it please..................<BR>