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#758735 10/07/03 08:01 PM
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Follow up to my post the other day:
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=34;t=009970

Quick Recap: STBX is in the mental health hospital. AFter MONTHS of treating me poorly and his life falling apart he started feeling quite sucidal. I drove him to the hospital.. but began feeling very unease with level of support I was providing him. He always comes to me when he's depressed. He didn't want his parents to know he was there.

So I did it... I told him on the phone today I need to back off. I can't be his support anymore. I'm still crying about this. I want to be his support. But I know I can't. HE's got multiple girlfriends.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> This is the hardest thing ever.

#758736 10/07/03 08:15 PM
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Good for you. You need to stop enabling his behavior. He's got to get himself straightened out. It souunds like his depression has stemmed from his choices. Although it's possible he's mentally ill and that results in poor choices. Either way, he needs to get emotionally stable and make healthy choices and he won't do it you're always picking up the pieces.

Plus, as you said, multiple girlfriends. It's hard to let loved ones reap the rewards of their bad behavior, but sometimes we just have to.

Glad you were strong enough to do it.


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