Judge signed papers.

It is finished.

And as fate would have it, Jethro had to have a "face to face" talk about the holiday visitation agreement.

I said no originally but he said he had to pick up the clothes I got together for the needy family and then needed to "give me the child support check". So I said ok.

Da Peach let it fly today. It was a horrible time. Two hours it took. And we ended up hashing out stuff at his office after he and his business partner tried to loop me into helping them obtain clients for sales. I said no. Then we had it out for almost an hour and a half. He is in many ways foggier than ever, and in other ways beginning to really show guilt. He said he will pay me off faster than the courts would do as that would be the right thing to do. Then he went on and on "about how happy he is now and how his baby is due in 2 mos." I teared up and asked him how it feels to have less than two months of freedom after the papers were signed today? On our divorce day he said "well sometimes the pill doesn't work.." I said..funny, but the pill has very good clinical efficacy. Very good. But your mistress doesn't understand the concept of it or does she know it too well and decided to lay a trap for you? He looked down and looked away. I was crying and he couldn't look at me. I know he knows she GOT PREGGO ON PURPOSE. He said "well we are going to try to make it work". I said "that sounds so promising". We went back and forth and back and forth and he then said an allusion to his "having very influential contacts and if I don't get along with him that things could go badly for me legally". I got mad and cursed at him for first time in I don't know how many years. Then there was some banter about the finances and I walked up to his fancy desk and said to him "well honey, you know it would be so good for you financially to pay us what you REALLY should be paying us and then I could buy some nicer clothes and go out and you'd in the long run pay less alimony because then I'd be dating and hopefully married soon." I was overcome with anger when I said it, although I was cool and calm when I looked at him dead in the eyes leaning over his desk. He admitted that I looked beautiful and that "your beauty was never the problem". And then said wierd stuff about his life...He really THINKS HE'S A GOOD PERSON AND THAT HE HAS DONE NO WRONG.

And then he admitted to me a horror. I left the office with no words. He admitted he BROKE INTO MY HOME FIVE TIMES THIS YEAR. NOT ONE, LIKE THE ONE TIME HE WAS ARRESTED AND CONVICTED OF. I got so angry I didn't know what to do. He believed it was his right to do so. I almost vomited right there. Said it was his right to show that sometimes I did not keep up the house well (like the guy in sleeping with the enemy...this one...) and said he made photos. I before leaving shouted at him "well you could have left my rolex and not resorted to stealing. What was it Jethro? Did you need money to buy your deliberately pregnant ho some jewelry so she won't leave again?". I walked out after that.

I am angrier than ever. But in his guilt, the man at least paid me for this month. And he's something. So much something I cannot say. After leaving he left me a vmail saying "I am so sorry" and whatnot. He needs an entire lifetime to cover the number of "sorry's" he should say to me.

He did give me more visitation during Christmas due to his incredible and horrible guilt he's carrying though. According to decree, there is to be a split with one parent getting the child for christmas break in odd years, and the other parent in even years.

You'd have been proud of me. I kept my cool except for the part where the tears just flowed down my face when he hung his head in shame acknowledging that the OW got preggo on purpose. I couldn't help it. Even though I got mad at the end, I still held it together. He even asked me "why should I be so judgemental when HE'S FORGIVEN FOR WHAT HE HAS DONE?" I said "well part of forgiveness is TURNING FROM THE SIN YOU'RE STILL DOING. I don't see any turning here."

So as of today, da peach is da single peach. I have more closure. I have gotten alot off of my chest and actually got to see guilt at work on a very, very guilty and sad man. And it was sad for me to see who he has become in the last two years. He asked when we were looking at the calendar schedule "why can't you look at me when we are talking?" I said back to him "I cannot bear to at you now. It makes me sick Jethro. I bet deep down you are sick too. You'd have to be if you said that this, what we are doing now, negotiating over who gets our child what night is or was the right thing to do."

I cried all the way home and know now that I am going to have to set up newer boundaries b/c I cannot be letting him think that he can give me the check in person. He cannot be allowed contact for that reason. I do not want nor desire to be around this man alone for any reason whatsoever at all. It actually made me sick. Truly sick to listen to what he said and see how this man justified breaking the law, man's law, as well as God's laws.

But ironically, after my closure, I am free today. Maybe God used this confrontation/schedule thing to free me from the bonds I have been imprisoned in for the last three years. I am blessed that I left this marriage with a clean conscience. I was a good wife. I was faithful. I was kind. I am freed from his repeated adultery and lies and treachery.

I cannot believe it. I am divorced.

And yea, I am crying writing this right now. This has been so long and hard a road I've walked on these last two years. I really fought hard when my marriage had a little bit of a chance. I would do it again as I have no regrets. My xh is not the person I ever thought I knew. It sickens and enrages me to see who he has become and how much he has changed. But I am at least free of this. And when I found out today at work, I walked into the bathroom and cried. Silently for about three to five minutes. No sobbing, just silent tears running down my face. Like when a terminal patient has plug pulled. And on the day, the very day my divorce was final, I am granted one last chance to let it all go and let the one who brought all of this on my family hear what I have been not daring enough to say.

The part that is still ringing in my ears is this part he said...kinda makes me know that he is indeed a sociopath and has some kind of disorder where he thinks he's "king of the world" or something. He said to me "you will get what you want if you just show me respect and work with me." I said back" Isn't it time I GOT RESPECT NOW?".

It is finished. I did all I could do and now I am freed

{{{{{{{{peachy}}}}}}}}

Peachy - yes my xhusband says to be frequently, that I better cooperate, cause he will make it miserable for me. But you know what, that is a cry for help. A cry from them that they know deep down inside that they did wrong but are to ego to say it to us.

Peachy, I am glad that you are on the start of closure. Yes, he has a pregnant women and a new baby coming. But shortly, the truth will come out, and Peachy you know as well as the rest of us the unit is not going to work. A unit of deceit and lies, is made from Satan not God.

You look beautiful, and Jethro stated that too. Good to hear it wasn't it Hon. Now you are on your way to being yourself. Counseling would be good for you now. I am still in counseling for all that I have had to deal with. It is really helping me. I have set boundaries, and the boundaries were needed cause SNL thinks he can come into this house anytime he wants.

Take your son and have a wonderful christmas. Remember the true meaning of christmas and the gift that God gave us, his son. That is all I want this christmas, is to have my children go to church with me, and to see the gift of our Lord our Savior. I would like SNL to come, but I feel he won't, cause one he doesn't believe in church right now. And I think he has other plans.

The thing I would really like for all of us to do is give thanks each day for something in our lives. Something different each day. Like today, I thanked God for youngest Sons gift in music. There is something that we all can be thankful for. Even if we are in pain!

I accidentally double posted this.

Thanks newly about the idea but I already have a burglar alarm in new house and nice sign in front flower bed saying "ADT".

And there were times I have been fearful for my well being.

And sure nough...He is a narcissist. 100 percent and maybe sociopath. When he mean "work with me" part, he meant being amenable to his choices in the settlement and in child rearing. This was spoken after he hounded me initially about going back to work with him.

I will not go back to work with him. I am letting attorneys know tomorrow of his breaking in five times. His rationale? "I pay the rent and I should be able to get in there if I wanted to." That's what he told me. But he did not pick out my new house and he is not welcome. Plus he's on one year probation right now and I think that keeps him at bay for a while.

Another kicker? The OW's baby is DUE ON MY BIRTHDAY. And Jethro said he was going to name it the same name I had picked out if my son had been a girl. I lost it with him and told him I would call every family member plus OW and tell them what he was gonna do. See how FV likes raising a baby that was the name picked out by his x wife...He changed his tune, pretended to "forget that I chose that name" and said he would not do it.

I am not going around him. Keeps trying to get a rise out of me somehow. If it's not trying to get me working with him, then it's the cruel stuff he's done. I am sickened and have been crying for hours since coming home. Son comes back tomorrow thank God.

Boy FV is in for one prince of a wayward husband huh? He is outta control. And if all the stuff he had said about me was true (I was ugly, stupid, couldn't do anything right) then why was he trying to get me to work with him? I think after hearing what I said to him that he will no longer ask me that stoooopit question.

I feel betrayed, almost violated hearing it from him cooly about how he broke into my home five times earlier this year. Without any trace of remorse whatsoever. Like it was his right to invade my life. To go through my stuff, to prod around and get on my computer and caller id. To sift through my life. My new life.

Yea, sometimes I used to get really frightened. I called my sister tonight and she was very very upset. She was worried about this happening too. And she too believes that b/c I am moving on with my life, that he is not wanting me to. My sis said, "I worry b/c it's like the OJ thing a decade ago." She was getting independent after their divorce which was messy and seeing other men and he didn't like the fact she got a new life. Even though he already had a new one too...My sis thinks its because he knows and almost completely admitted today (when the man doesn't deny something, then it's safe to assume when dealing with this man for the last 10 years that it is the truth then) that OW, Ms. Family Values, got knocked up on purpose to get the golden meal ticket. Her 2nd outta wedlock preggo. Sis thinks that he is really regretting what he did and knows nothing on earth can change what he did to me and to our family. That he can't let me get on with life because he has to still be in the driver's seat. My sis is worried about if and when I start dating that he will really get outta control.

I will call the police and let them know about it. Good idea.

It is been so hard tonight. I wanted to believe he was sorry at least for that. For just one thing. I believe he was. I believe there was tremendous regret in that man today and I saw it and heard it. But I also saw somebody hell bent on destroying themselves. A man not willing to stand up and do the right thing and change the direction his river is flowing. I don't believe their marriage, or shack up or whatever they are going to do will last. I heard it in his voice when he said "we will try to make it work". That's not what those getting ready to be married say. That's doomsday words. And he knows it. I think he's seeing through what she did and I am sure glad I am not FV tonight in that house with him. But she made her own bed, lied in it, and got preggo with a married man in it so I don't feel sorry for the little golddigger.

I have this horrible, sick, awful feeling inside. Like I've been punched in my stomach. I feel violated by this man once again. I am going to always tape stuff and keep records. I want to be free of this and this whole horrible memory in my head. I wish it would all go away . I wish I could get some amnesia or something and that I could just experience for once in my life the joy of ignorant bliss. That would be nice.

There's been so much to work through. I even know what to do when more comes at me...The really good counselor I saw helped me with this. She told me that I would experience several things. One being a feeling of loss of control of my life. And that the other being dread and fear. She said to be good to myself, cry, let it out because I have to regain the control. I know I was not myself b/c I got out a box of Lucky Charms and started eating it right out of the box. I don't even like dry, sugary cereal. I feel really wierd and violated for sure.

Now without a doubt I know what happened to my rolex watch. The gift given to me from Jethro for having my son. Nine days in the hospital si worth much more than a dad gum rolex. And he stole it back. I know where it went now. And I am further sickened by him.

I have cried and cried and cried tonight. My whole face is swollen from crying.

My sister says that sometimes people in therapy will suddenly confess things and try to endear themselves to someone they have wronged. But I told her that I didn't think he waws in any therapy b/c he said some very selfish and foggy things. Like HIM naming his baby (isn't their another party like FV involved), his getting RESPECT, and me "working with HIM and him giving me more, etc." Basically, it's all about HIM in the world of Jethro.

I am glad it's not my world anymore and I gotta keep him away or these two worlds are gonna go to war very soon. I want peace and to be left alone from this man.

I am tired, yet jumpy and shaky all at same time. I feel like crying still. I have got to get some sleep. I am going to sign off now.

Please pray for my son and I. Pray that we stay and remain safe and that I get over all this fear once and for all. I take the steps necessary to protect myself so don't worry. I will make sure lawyers and local police (I am in a neighboring county now and am friends with the man running for sherriff here and his wife).

Hi sweetie ... I am just lurking by.

When you come here first time, your name is notpeachyinga ... now justpeachy ... later you could be verypeachy <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> .

Hang in there and keep in touch.

-rh-

((((((((((((((((((peachy))))))))))))))))

Thinking of you girl!

love and light,

Jacky

Get some sleep hon, your son will be home soon, and the joy of your life will be with you. Yes, my counselor told me yesterday, a good cry is good, get it out, and then start over. Also, don't get down on yourself if you do something that seems stupid. Just move ahead the next day.

Congratulations!
Now use this closure to move on.
You already have a better life than you had before. At a minimum, an honest life.

Peachy....{{{hugs}}} I wrote to you last night under the other post you had. Please..... take care. It sounds like you are looking at this realistically and watching out for you and your son. My ex...though he never *hit* me (like that was the ONLY abusive thing he could do) -- he too broke into the house, sabotaged my car, had his son plant a trojan on my computer, sifted through my mail -- etc. He *left* in 1998 -- he is still wanting to control my life even though he has another *woman* in his life.

Peachy... you will do just fine -- but don't think for a minute that this man will change and be a good person. ALWAYS watch your back!

PEACHY,

You are so right to not go around your X anymore. He sounds like a sick f***! This guy takes the cake. You should thank your lucky stars for getting him out of your life. He'll never treat a woman well. He's a user from the word go!! While divorce is always hard, and we don't usually see the "good" in it till later, I truly believe you will be better off without him. Can you imagine how trapped he must feel to just be divorced and having his gf pregnant and due in 2 months?!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Words escape me! There is no way he is happy about their upcoming baby. I pray for the child's sake that it works out with those two. We don't need another innocent child harmed by divorce. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

When I read that he broke into your house 5 times, I got goosebumps. Hopefully, the man was just trying to freak you out and didn't really do it. He is scary Peachy. My XH too broke into my house and destroyed some things. He broke every door in the house too. I had to go several days with no way to lock my doors because of him. There was blood from him cutting his hands all over the place. He was drunk when he did it and he always scared me when he was drunk. I can't stand to be around people drinking because of bad experiences with him.

His speech about getting what you want if you listen to him is just bulls*** and he knows it!! The man is quite the manipulator isn't he?

Take care of yourself and don't allow him to affect your life okay?

((((PEACHY))))

(((PEACHY)))

I agree with everyone else here when they say Jethro is sick. I am glad that the signing has given you some clouser. I read that you went to get your support check from him. Is that correct? I had my STBXW support taken out of her pay each week and then they mail it to me. That way I don't have to worry about asking her for it. She wasn't too happy about it in the beginning, but she saw the advantages of it being done this way shortly after. Have you asked about the court taking the money directly from is pay? I think that it will make things easier on you in the long run. Continue to be strong. I will be praying for both you and your son for protection from Jethro and FV.

Indy

Hey my good old friends redhat, nina2, and Indy. And thank you to newly, faith, elan, rwd, tfs...

I have had a very difficult day. My coughing was really bad. All that cold junk is still coming out and I am trying to have at work a professional demeanor and look reasonably ok while sounding as though I am coughing up parts of my lungs..gross.

Couldn't sleep last night at all. The anger has hit full force now. I still cried this afternoon after work when I went jogging. I tried to work it outta my system but it hasn't left yet.

And yes, the man did break in five times. He believed he had a "right" to do so as he was paying for the rent. That's what his foggy little mind believes.

And the fact he wanted to name OW/sleaze's baby the same name I came up with for our child, if our child had been a girl is another knife in the back. I feel violated and angry. Like I can't get my breath. He sucks the good stuff outta me. I am thankful for work and for my boy because they keep me from thinking about this new stuff..Keep me busy. I love my son more than anybody could ever know.

What he does not know is that our son understands all he is doing and has done.

My last counselor warned me of stuff like this happeneing...New little "revelations" of bad stuff that jethro would do might throw me into a negative tailspin. But that I would recover faster and faster each time. And that I should just expect him to always do the worst. And expect him to want nothing from me except my waving a white flag saying to him "I surrendur...you can control me...I will live as a nun for the remainder of my years here and do your bidding master." That's what he wants. Not for me to move on, but for me to remain paralyzed and fearful and reliving each new betrayal. But I am damn determined to not let him have that.

I have got to quit this. I can't run from it. So I am going to run through it. I got on my knees and prayed last night about two am. I cried and prayed for God to finally really free me from him. I know I was supposed to find this stuff out and that after I work through this stuff, I am going to be freer than ever. I feel like I am racing down a very steep rollercoaster. I want to finally make it end.

I know i can do it.

To see what someone has done to their family and willfully destroy it and then harm and mentally abuse their former innocent partner is unbelievable to me. Why could he just not leave and do the right things? Why couldn't he just have left and left me alone for all time? Why couldn't he just go on being "so happy" as he says he is and leave me the hell alone? Easy. He's sick. He's lost. And I am done with him. There is NOTHING that binds me to him now. We are simply two people who's DNA bumped together one night in FL at a wedding in Boca Raton. That's it now. Nothing else. All he has done has wiped away any good memory of him I can have. I don't have them anymore. There is nothing that can take away what he did to me...and to our boy...But I am trying to change the future. I am working so hard to do that.

Please pray for me. Today's been hard. But I am keeping on keeping on and am not going to give in.

Now suddenly after the run, I am exhausted. I feel so tired. Know it is the fear and the stress. I don't know if anybody here knows what it's like to be fearful of someone like I was of Jethro. He used to shout and yell profanity at me if he'd get home and his 5000 sq ft. house was not perfect. For fun, he'd tell me how "nobody else would want me" and yesterday for fun he said it again..."I sure hope somebody will come along and want to marry you but I doubt it." Then he also yesterday made a reference to my being fat (in his brain I was fat...well, compared to a skinny, chain smoking party girl twenty five year old model maybe) but in the real world, I am pretty attractive and even slimmer than I was before all of this. He did retract that and said .."well, you're not like that now though." It hurt none the less. The part about nobody ever wanting me and then saying "who'd want somebody as messed up as you..." He was referring to the time over a year and a half ago when I was seeing my good counselor weekly and when I did plan A and was on antidepressants...I said "well, I am not that same person. I lived through a hell you created for us and I am getting over it now compeletely." I realize deep down that he says that b/c he cannot control me anymore and might just be afraid that I am getting on with life and that I will meet somebody or that guys will find me attractive. That if I don't like myself then nobody else will.

It's hard to erase the last three years hearing somebody tell you those things...after some time hearing them, you begin to believe it. The counselor spent almost a year deprogramming me. She made me say aloud to myself sometimes "I am not those things. Those are hurtful things said to keep me from happiness. They are lies." They are really lies to keep me from not in some way needing jethro in my life. I don't want anybody that would treat me this way ever again. Not ever.

His words used to make me doubt my every move. I believed I was stupid, ugly, fat, and wacked out. That no man on earth could possibly love or want to get to know somebody like me...Despite having everybody tell me otherwise...and strangers too. I believed that my xh was right, why? Because I believed you should submit to your h. I thought and believed in him. I thought that he would be the only person who could care for me or love me and in reality, he was the only person harming me and abusing me. It is amazing how abusive men (sorry guys here) almost brainwash us into believing their lies about us and how they use lies and fear to control us.

A few days ago, I saw the movie "enough" with J. Lopez. It was literally what happened to me. Except for the ending and the way he was able to get her daugther and custody. That was my life. Adn the guy kinda resembled Jethro too. I had to turn the movie off after being frozen watching it and crying. Little did I know I would hear almost the same thing the woman in the movie heard two days later. part where Jethro says "you work with me and you will get much more from me if you do so". And the part about "I have influential and important friends legally."

I am blessed I got out. But I am hurting tonight from words and from finding out that my home was invaded by this man five times during this year. I am trying my best and will pray my best to shake this stuff off...these words off.

I want to get back on with it like I was just two days ago. Happy and upbeat and ready to take on the world. Please pray for me and my son as we try to make this holiday ours. Pray for him, my baby, as he has to work through these issues hearing from his own daddy how he got another woman pregnant and how son has to deal with it. When I get one more month under my belt, I am going to take my son to the psych I found..the one who does court appearances and get him helped. So I can learn how to help my son through this. And so that there will be a record medically and legally speaking of the hell my xh put our family, my son, through. And if any more is left, I will see the man myself so that the world knows I am sane and that I am getting happier each day the further from Jethro I get.

I can't even look at anything that reminds me of jethro. It sickens me so. I gave back all the old family christmas ornaments he gave me. did it last year. I don't want to see anything that reminds me of him. Nothing. I wish he would disappear.

peachy,
I remember some of the old timers held a burial of some type for all the old momento's, pictures, etc., that they had laying around. Me, I just threw everything in the trash, except for her wedding gown which I gave to Goodwill.

Other stuff which was being "saved" is now in use everyday or thrown away. I wish I could afford to redecorate the house the way I want to. I'm thinking about trying to sell the entertainment center she had to have and buying myself a HUGE screen TV.

Just give yourself time to heal, don't expect to much from yourself or j. Hopefully when the baby comes he will be too busy to think about you.

Don't worry about being alone, that's a common fear. Only you can prevent yourself from finding someone down the road.

Dear Peach,

I've read this thread for a while and I am praying for you and your boy. Here is a great prayer site that I visit often;

http://www.jesuit.ie/prayer/

It is Catholic, but the prayers are wonderful and one need not be Catholic to go there and get something from it, just ask Nina, who is a very good friend of mine.

I have read some of your other threads and it has made me grateful that my own divorce had none of the animosity you speak of coming from your exH. She moved far, far away and I do not have to deal with her. I am also inspired by your faith, especially during the hard times.

Tomorrow morning, I will pray a Rosary for you and your son.

God bless you and keep you and I hope that you feel and get better soon,

NMW

Thank you thank you thank you.

I spent last hour eating more Lucky Charms. This whole anger and hurt thing isn't good for me.


RWD--burial idea is good. Already gave away to charity alot of things. My mom has my wedding dress though. She said she'd keep it in case I had a daughter or dil would want it as it was gorgeous.

NMWBTWBD: Thank you so much. Thank you for praying. And I will visit the site. I need peace now. I do not hate my x. I pray for him still. I just cannot get a hold of why he continues to try to hurt me. I don't get it. So I am letting go of it and just trying like heck to not think about it.

Thank you for praying the rosary for us. We really need it.

I thank all of you who pray for us and who try to help me through this. If my x weren't so narcissistic, he'd let me go and let me get on with things and realize that he has done everything to me that you can do to a spouse...negatively that is. I have let go of him knowing fully well that without any real change in him I cannot have any contact. And I don't want it anytime soon.

My head hurts and i have done nothing tonight. I need to finish decorating for Christmas and I cannot bear to do it. I am really hurting right now. Hurt because he almost proudly told me of how he deliberately hurt me and violated me time and time again by breaking and entering. And then even trying to use the baby name I came up with should we have had a daughter. And then making me feel fearful should I decide to take him back to court. And then the names.

I just stopped with the Lucky Charms. You know...that doesn't do any good. It does not. It doesn't do a thing. It is just somethign to comfort me. I am NOT going to let him win. I am going to keep looking good and exercising and am not going to resort to crying or Lucky Charms but am gonna march upstairs and pray for peace. And healing.

Thank you for your kindness. God bless.

You know Peachy.....someone in here recommended the book: "Why Does He Do That?". I found great comfort in it when I was feeling lost, hurt and betrayed. It answered some of my questions and gave me some insight into the man I *thought* I married, but ohhhhh changed so much. I honestly thought some alien took over his body.

Just food for thought....you are doing extremely well...and you are being a wonderful mom to that boy of yours. Chin up! Better days are yet to come!

Peachy,
There's a book called " Rebuilding After the Relationship Ends." or something like that. I lent my copy, actually a copy someone lent me, to a guy that was having problems because he wife left him and he lost his job(he was more upset about losing the job) and he moved away without saying anything, so I don't remember the author.

You may want to try searching for that.

Girl,

Never a dull moment w/U! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Glad to hear you still have your wits about you. Indy called me to let me know what you have been up to. I think about you and your little one a lot and why am I not surprised about Jethro's new hobby (cat burglar)?

Right now I have my hands full with a few items. We are ok but you know this end of the country has it's on going horrors. LOL!!

My family is doing well. H is now getting back into the swing of things and his family (MIL/grandfather/SIL etc) need his help. I am glad he is there for them.

By the way for those of you who have never seen the Peach..... she is one beautiful gal. No ugly spot on this girl... no sirrreee. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

So Peach, you keep your chin high and a wary eye out for that fat boy. As for the OW, well I feel sorry for the children. Her children do not have the benefit of a loving mom, just an over processed, plasticized, dyed, boob job mama. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> LOL!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Hugz,
L.

I said a Rosary this morning, especially for you and your son. I ought to have included Nina, because her ex is a real prize, too, so I will do it tomorrow.

I think, I really believe that the Rosary will help you.

I'm off to work,


God Bless,
nmw

Peachy,

What did your lawyers say about Jethro's confession? Again, I have to agree with everyone here when they tell you that Jethro just wants to have control over you. I see it in my situation with my STBXW everytime I try and take a step forward in life without her. You need to always remember that you didn't take the easy way out in life. You are there for your son everyday. You are his rock and example of what is really right and wrong in life. From what I read he already knows that Jethro is wrong in his new life, and it is so hard to see our children suffer through that. They want to love their parents as if nothing ever happened.

Have you given any thought to having the court take care of getting your support payments? I think that if you can get it to go through the court it will make you dealings with Jethro only about son and not about money. I find that my STBXW gets upset everytime money issues are brought up. They want to live in their dream world and no matter what they say money is very important in mantaining that dream world. Take yourself out of it. Don't give him the satisfaction of having to ask him for money. That builds up his ego. He thinks that you still need him because you can't make it on your own.

Stay strong. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I hope you get to feeling better soon.

Indy

<small>[ December 10, 2003, 08:24 AM: Message edited by: INDY_357 ]</small>