The issue mainly deals with waiting for the right person to come along, while the rest of the married couples are crumbling around us. Now its us that will soon add to the numbers.

I guess I posted this incorrecly, I wanted mainly to know what people went through before they ended up in such a position in thier life.
I just finally got on and need many questioned answered and I guess this is a start. Thank you all for starting this forum.

hi michael,
i responded to you in my thread. I don't know much about your situation but it seems like your wife is what they call a cake eater. She has you at home taking care of the kids and she still gets to come and go as she pleases and keep an appartment with a boyfriend. I would have to say it's time to kick her to the curb(figuratively speaking). If she has an appartment already why doesn't she just stay there and impose no contact.

You should probably post to the general questions or just found out forum and seek some advice from some of the more experienced members.

your situation sounds very distressing. Have you talked with a counselor?

No I have not rally talked about this to anyone. I am very busy with the children. I have 3 boys and I have them all the time. I take them to school, cook and really do most of everything for them. I have never had a moment of time just for myself. If I get a moment, I feel bad because I can not share that with them.
They even sleep in the same bed with me, because my "wife" took the other room, wich she has been in for more then 2 years. I can not remember the last time we slept together. More ways then others. Always some excuse, and for the past 2 years it has just gone to just, oh well, its just another excuse. etc.... Other then that we are very very poor. We went 1 1/2 without any money. I have a great job now for almost a year, and we were starting to get out of the welfare system. I had no choice, but now I can move on and afford to keep paying all the bills, well she takes her money and spends it on crap. It is a very heartful story. But I really thought we could beat the odds. Well one thing I can say. I beat them and will continue to rise to where I was 3 years ago. 100k plus down to 0$. We were hurting. Thanks for the time.