I want to thank the guy that started this topic and all the ladies that have answered it...<p>For me, sex is extremely relaxing and almost guarantees a peaceful sleep after orgasm..<p>I found out (through you women) and talking with my wife, that afterwards sometimes she's still keyed up and has to stare at the ceiling for a while before going to sleep... <p>Another reason to work out your differences - in our case enjoy sex before getting so tired that we (she) needs to sleep.<p>-d

Just found out something interesting from my W and I wanted to touch base with you ladies again....<p>so...the big 'O' is not always necessary...
if you have the 'O' you can be keyed up for a while....<p>so.....how about when you don't want the 'O', but just want him in you.....does THAT key you up?<p>This one little issue caused a BIG major mess last evening......<p>Thanks

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>so.....how about when you don't want the 'O', but just want him in you.....does THAT key you up?<hr></blockquote><p>Well, speaking from experience, yes! <p>Hey, let's face it....making love takes some amount of "work"....even tho it is fun and worth it. And esp. for women, it's usually NOT just a physical thing, i.e. purely a physical release, like it can be for men (notice I didn't say ALWAYS....).<p>For most women, it involves some emotional energy. So, yes, you can still get "keyed" up...or as I like to put it....INVOLVED! <p>I don't mean to be the harbinger of doom here, but it sounds like there may be another issue going on with your wife. Is there more going on here than just the way the sex is done?<p>All I know is that with my STBXH, sex wasn't really the issue. Respect was. I didn't feel like he respected me, my needs, my opinions, etc. He thought it was just "weird" that I didn't have "O's" instead of wanting to help me in whatever way he could, to get the most out of our sexual relationship. He expected me to meet his sexual needs, anywhere, anytime, but when I asked him to meet my affection needs, he said "I'm sorry, I'm just not that kind of guy." Sheeeessh!!<p>Just something to think about...<p>Aloha,
Ms.O