please help i am one year in the marriage and still i keep her asking about her past. i feel that she had sexual relationships with boys in her past. what should i do??? i always wanted a virgin girl...

Stop trying to forget.
If you want a virgin girl, see her as a virgin everytime you come together because she is both a virgin and not a virgin. It is your choice what you see.

I believe that when a couple commits their lives to each other, in the sight of God and man, that they become virgins again, spiritually. The old things are in the past - all things have become new again. The Lord knows the condition of our hearts. He gives us a clean slate and lets us start over again. Your wife deserves that chance - relax and enjoy her. Forgive and forget. She IS your virgin.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">i always wanted a virgin girl... </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">why is this piece of information important? this concept has no relevance to anything except your own ego.

learn to lose the ego, you sound very young and immature. . ..

tell us more about YOURSELF. . .

wiftty

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by WhenIfindthetime:
<strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">i always wanted a virgin girl... </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">why is this piece of information important? this concept has no relevance to anything except your own ego.

learn to lose the ego, you sound very young and immature. . ..

tell us more about YOURSELF. . .

wiftty </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

Dear wiffty
thanks for that words. but you know it is very easy to say all the philosophy stuff but difficult to practise in reality.
i never had a relationship with any girl before. i do not really think that my wife loves me because she does not like whatever i do. we had an arranged marriage in india. i came to know very late that she had an affair for 3 years with a guy whom her parents disagreed to get married to. then another guy at her workplace also who helped her get out of that previous relationship. she started an affair with him also. even after marriage she was in contact with him via emails.
i still do not know how can i say that she loves me or is there any point in continuing the relationship

Dear wiffty
thanks for that words. but you know it is very easy to say all the philosophy stuff but difficult to practise in reality.
i never had a relationship with any girl before. i do not really think that my wife loves me because she does not like whatever i do. we had an arranged marriage in india. i came to know very late that she had an affair for 3 years with a guy whom her parents disagreed to get married to. then another guy at her workplace also who helped her get out of that previous relationship. she started an affair with him also. even after marriage she was in contact with him via emails.
i still do not know how can i say that she loves me or is there any point in continuing the relationship

The email business isn't a good sign. It looks like you have a little problem to deal with.

In the United States, for the most part, we don't spend a lot of time asking about our spouse's love or sex life before we married them. For my part, it is information that won't do anything except make me feel ill at ease. It has no other value or function in my life today. And frankly, I'm not interested in anything that just makes me uncomfortable.

In this country, once we are done with a lover, it is over. We just try to avoid ex boy and girl friends. And once married, any contact at all with an old boyfriend or girlfriend is usually kept at arm's length. It isn't something one would seek out unless he or she was looking for trouble.

The way marriages are arranged in your country is quite different than it is here. We aren't familiar with the problems that might arise in an arranged marriage.

Wish we could be of more help.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">i always wanted a virgin girl....
we had an arranged marriage in india </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I guess that's a big issue with pre-arranged Marriages. You don't get to select the kind of person you truly want to be with.

If you believe in arranged marriages, then you also have to also accept what ever may come in that "unknown package".


</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">i do not really think that my wife loves me because she does not like whatever i do. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Do you mean sexually? Or just anything?

Have you read on this site about how to meet someone's Emotional Needs?