My wife left me 3 weeks ago and took the children. She said that she was leaving prior to this and insisted that ther was no one else. That was a lie. She has since moved into a home not too far from where I live now but she will not tell me the address. No matter as I have figured it out but I have not gone by there. I have had phone contact with her almost everyday due to the children. I still do love her and pray to the lord everyday that we can work things out. I have not been the best husband and behaved badly on a few occasions because of her attitude towards me but I know I did not do the right thing. I have repented and conciously deal with my problems. I truely want to save my marriage before we get a divorce which she says she has filed for but no service yet. I can understand why she is having an affair or at least I think but our problems can be overcome. She is unwilling to work on our marriage and is caught up in the pillow talk and the money he has given her. I am putting together a plan B letter trying to see if this work at all but it may be difficult to live by because of the children. I do want my family whole again but I want to take the right approach. I don't want to be made of fool of anymore by asking her to return but I would most likely say yes if she did. Any advice?

If you are not going to see her,how are you going to show her you have/are changing??? Why would she want to return. Going straight to Plan B will only confirm to her in her mind, that you don't care for her.

You need to go to Plan A first! You are only 3 weeks in. You have a long way to go.

Hang in!

Had been working plan A for a few weeks but found joint check book w/OM and I did not think things through and immediately confronted her. I did not tell her to leave but she was so embarrassed and guilty that she took the kids and the things in the home and left.