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#766395 02/27/04 08:27 PM
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My son had boys over for a lan party. It is a computer party that all the kids brought over their computer, and play these games that they wipe each other out.

Around 1am one of the kids left. The party sort of was a pitfall. But who came said it was okay. Usually there are more kids and they have a blast. So I told my son, we will do this again, and send out invites. Anyways, the one kid left at 1am. Then another kid left at 6am and he came back to the door and told Jeffery that he couldn't get out of the driveway. Someone had dumped sheet metal and parts in our driveway so that we couldn't get out. This was a huge pile, that the individual dropped off with a big trailer.

Anyways, I get up this morning and my son told me about it, so son and I went out to look at it. I thought will I will call XH. Since he is in the heating and A/C business. I find out it is a disgruntled customer, and came to drop all the materials that my X was suppose to install in his new house. And X knew the guys name. So I called the police and the police talked to the X on my cell phone

Anyways, the police and I talked for awhile, and I said yes that I was going to file charges against the guy. The police went to the guys house, and came back later with the guy. The guy told me that my X didn't finish the job. And the job started months ago, and still isn't done, and this guy fired my X. And the police said that the guy could get a fine of $500.

I told the policeman in his car earlier that I really don't want to hear about the business cause I am no longer involved in the business. And the policeman told the guy when he was at my house that I have nothing to do with the business. So that is all the guy said. The guy said he was sorry to get me involved in the matters of him and my X. I said I accept his apology. He was very nice, and gave me a time that he would pick the stuff up.

He promised me that he would have the stuff out of my driveway by 1pm. Which he did, cause the dogs were barking when the guy came back. And I went out there to make sure they picked all the stuff up, which they did. And I was surprised that a lot of the stuff was rusty. Really rusty, but I didn't say a thing.

He and his friend left, and the guy once more said he was very sorry. I said, thank you for being considerate. And I said have a good day.

I did talk to my counselor today, she happened to call me after I was out there, and she said that I did handle the conversation well. SEtting boundaries that I am no longer involved in the business. And that I did not want to hear anymore about the problems. Same with my X. He called to say the guy lied, and I really said, I don't want to hear about the business on his part. Cause I am not invovled in the business. All I can say, is I am sorry that this happened, which I did.

I did talk with myself. And not once did the X said I am sorry that you got involved in a dispute. Not once did he say, I am sorry that the stuff was dumped all over the driveway and the kids couldn't get out of the driveway. That is where we are different. I would say I am sorry, if something happened at his mothers house which he lives at. But not him. Just like something that happened earlier. I asked X how he felt. And I did say I am sorry that this has happened. Which I really am. And X knows what this is about. But I don't get the respect back from X.

I am no longer invovled in his business, and that is the way it is. I am going to put a sign up by the driveway that states, Belleville/Canton is no longer at this address. Cause I do get customers that drive up my driveway, thinking that the business runs here. And that was one of the things that the guy said to me. He looked up the address of the business, and it is still at my address. So I told X that I wish for the address to be changed. He said the new phone book, has no address for the business. So that is when I stated that I will put a sign up that states the business is no longer at this address.

This is another reason that I want to sell this house. Get away from the business that I worked my butt off, and helped X get it going. If it wasn't for me, his business would of not been profitable. I worked my butt off organizing, and taking phone calls.

Anyways, still dealing with the X. And I am leaving tomorrow morning for a deserved vacation with a cousin of mine. We are going to Florida, and I am looking forward to visiting friends of mine that I haven't seen in about 10 years.

Just an update.

We will see if X will pay me for going to court. Cause I said, I don't have to go, which I didn't. And he said he would pay me. But of course, nothing was stated about paying me. And of course, he probably won't. Cause he doesn't want to pay me anything that he doesn't have to. But he got what he wanted, to save his butt after all these months. And now we will see if he delivers on his promise.

Bye, See ya all after sunny Florida. It is suppose to be in the low 70's and sunny.

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Sounds like you handled things just fine!

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Have a great vacation

Doesn't he still come in the house? I would n't leave while he has access (through the kids).
don't trust him.


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