Thought I should move this thread to a more appropriate place. (Please follow the link in my signature so this makes sense.)<p>To continue the fabric store analogy...(You martians have me confused - lol) Define it please.<p>I still think you are missing my point, but maybe I am asking the wrong people. That's why the answer is askew. LOL [img]images/icons/blush.gif" border="0[/img] )<p>For those who don't know me or who are getting to know me, it has taken me 6 years to get here, to rebuild my life and to get healthy. I would like to think I am ready for the next step. <p>However, going and doing the things I did then are not really acceptable in the community in which I now live (nor the surrounding communities) - nothing bad but as a single mom and a teacher - just not acceptable! And I don't want to repeat past mistakes. Hense wanting clarification on the fabric store... [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>(and yes, I am home again tonight. Sitter(s) are still sick [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] )

SMW,<p>At this point I have almost given up. I don't think you will be able to see the light through those sunglasses. <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>I still think you are missing my point, but maybe I am asking the wrong people. That's why the answer is askew.<hr></blockquote>I am going to assume that you said here what you meant. If the answer is askew, then it apears that you don't actualy want an answer, so much as you want validation of the answer you think you already have.<p>People asking for answers usualy don't know what they will get in return. It apears that you have your own answers. You are just trying to be sure that they are correct. Remember, you are the only one who can say that your answers are right for you or not.<p>On defining the fabric store: Have dinner, go to a movie, or go dancing, (I know you like to dance) with someone (yes, a guy). Sit and talk at the library for all I care. General "courtship" stuff. You can even meet him at the resturant or theater or wherever so that you aren't seen being picked up or brought home by "some guy". I believe you can "date" without looking or behaving like a harlet. You act as if we/I are/am telling you to sleep with every man that comes along, or put a sign in your front yard that says "Get a piece here". And on that thought, if the town you live in/near is such a Sodom or Gomohra, then what is so "unacceptable" about that kind of behavior, even for a teacher. <p>IMVHO: You are hiding behind your position as a teacher and a mother, so that you don't have to take a chance on getting hurt again.<p>I strongly recomend you drag out your copy of The Dance by Garth Brooks.<p>OK, so there is a diferance between honesty and brutal honesty. I guess I just crossed that line now didn't I. <p>If you have actualy gotten this far, and are still speaking to me, send me an email. I figure you'll be using words that are not appropriate for this forum.<p>Keep smiling.
Thanks
Rev<p>[ January 27, 2002: Message edited by: rev ]</p>

Rev,
Sunglasses huh? Brutal honesty? You can't hack it.<p>hm...personal? yeah. uncalled for? Oh yeah!
Hurtful? yeah. Will I get over it...yeah I will.<p>1. Who says I don't go shopping?
2. You assume I want a husband. God has not bless me with that gift yet.If it happens along the way - awesome! If not, hopefully I will have made some good friends!
3. You- not me- make it sound like I want a "piece." That is NOT an issue for me. So get past it...(May God help me to forgive you for those comments.)<p>FYI - I am NOT hiding behind my role as a mother and a teacher to keep from being hurt. I live first for God and then my son....these are the things that make me what I am...they give me the air I breathe...the essense of what I am...<p>You and Squirt didn't see me when I "hid" from everything and everyone because I left town. D**** **** It took me 4 1/2 years before I reached a point wehere I didn't think about him daily and NOW a "friend" thinks I'm hiding... [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img] Take off your **** sunglasses! Realize I've started to live again.<p>My apologies to others on this board. Sometimes friends aren't always kind. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ January 29, 2002: Message edited by: smw ]</p>

BTW&#8230;the b-ball team kicked ash J<p>Redhat, <p>I did not take your earlier post personal. It&#8217;s the meeting the decent people aprt and it&#8217;s not just cause this town is 400 people. There are several neighboring communities &#8211; not large by your standard but&#8230;. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>The &#8220;fabric&#8221; store as Rev has put it &#8211; is not well stocked and full of clearance items after a 50% sale day if you get my drift. LOL<p>I called my best friend a few nites ago and asked for her help in defing my question &#8216;cause I knew she could help me clarify.<p>Here goes [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] LOL
1. You go out - its a meat market - seriously!
2. The men I keep being into'd to are "almost divorced. Gee - what I do NOW ant to be - an OW! (see me D-day plus 1 year at least) (Please reread my 2nd post concerning my current friends and their situations [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] )
Community of 400 w/ a current "out break" of A's causing increased watchful eye on single role-models in community. (Rev and Squirt you know that!) BTW - Don't we want that for our kids nowdays? Role models?
4. See #3. This means who you are friends w/, the hours you keep, etc. Seems old-fashioned but it matters ina community that supports its school enough to override a tax lid. It can also effect how my son is viewd and treated. ADVANTAGE: I get to see him off and on through out the day. I get to see all of his school plays etc w/out having to take time off etc. This week while the sitter has been sick I have been able to keep him in my room after school as long as I have not had meetings. Other teachers have covered when I have. [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Comments from her about me
"YOu give them more of a chance than I do"
"They are intimidated by your education"<p>Question I asked
"Is it possible for a woman to be too nice?"
My son's father seemed to think so.<p>Which brings me to notrepeating past mistakes. I want to find quality decent hardworking men who have character. My questions is not about if I should date but where is this quality "fabric" store. NOt the bargin bin but the _(Macey's)_______ store. I truly want to expand my friendships/horizons. <p>to move beyond the pain of the past along the rainbow of life.<p>smw [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ January 29, 2002: Message edited by: smw ]</p>

smw,<p>Don't ler rev bother you. In my younger years I was "saving" myself for the right one. I was going out w/ a few girls, but nothing happening, "just freind". I knew somewhere there is a woman for me and I would be swept by her and I would give it all to her. I waited to find my mate not a date, even my first kiss belong to my wife. It is not until I am 20 y/o. Do I miss my teenage years ?, no, I would do the same if I have to do it again. It is what you want and you know what make you happy. There is someone will be there for us, we have to wait and find it.

Sorry I had not answered you sooner Redhat. life takes some amazing turns ones and awhile. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] I will share some other time.<p>Anyway, thanks for the support. It helps knowing others have/ do feel the same way.<p>Rev, I know I was hard on you in my above post ans while I don't take back anything I said...I know you were just trying to help and being a friend. I do appreciate that.<p>smw