I figure I should start posting on this board sometimes too. Because I'm pretty sure my WH won't be doing what's necessary for marital recovery to even begin. The divorce will be final in September and I'm starting to accept it that's most likely what will happen.

As each day goes by the damage WH has done increases and there's even less time left for him to get busy and convince me that I should give him another chance.

I'm looking forward to a happy future, and hopefully happy marriage in the future, whatever WH decides.

<small>[ August 30, 2004, 05:40 PM: Message edited by: laura_lee ]</small>

Hi Laura Lea,

WH left over 2 years ago and this is his 7th affair (just counting the ones I found out about). Also, before he left he had become abusive; at first just verbally and emotionally but then a couple cases of being physically abusive. There was a restraining order in place for first year of separation. All he had to do in order for me to drop restraining order and let him come home was to attend anger management program. He refused to. BUT I found out later he told his fmaily, friends, and OW that he DID go and that I still wouldn't let him come home...

Anyway, he's already wasted so many 2nd chances. I've been in Plan B for several months and there were a few false recoveries.
The divorce will be final in September and unless HE gets busy and starts saying and doing whatever's needed to save our marriage, I'm not going to bother anymore.

We have three daughters and only one of them will even speak to him or have visitation with him (and she only will sometimes...)

So I'm pretty sure it's over and I'm pretty much OK with that.

<small>[ August 30, 2004, 05:41 PM: Message edited by: laura_lee ]</small>