Do you have evidence? If so, here is what I would do. Give OM a choice. Share with him that you have evidence of the affair, and you are following Matthew 18:15-20
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">A Brother Who Sins Against You
15"If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. 16But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that 'every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.' 17If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector.
18"I tell you the truth, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.
19"Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. 20For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them." </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Share with him that you are following the first part, that you are going to him man to man, and that you want him to end the relationship and make a full confession. If he does not, you are Biblically required to involve more people as the scripture clearly says.
This is not a threat, but rather the way that God asks us to resolve these issues.
Make sure that you are doing this, not to punish him, but to help in overcome his sin and to grow closer with God.
If you are just mad at him and want him to suffer, then pray for him and pray for your own healing.
Tony
