For the past 5 1/2 yrs I have wondered why this affair mess struck my family? At first, I thought & really truely believed that it would be so we could minster to others so they would not go down the path we had done.

Four yrs ago I thought I was given the answer to my prayers when we moved overseas. Yeah no more OW, well I was wrong (if you don't know my story & most here don't any more, it is much to long for now). Between my then WH and OS I spent 10 of the most hellish months of my life. Thanks to those who were here who helped me get through every day toward the end.

Three years ago, when WH chose to move back to OW, I all but lost my faith. I could not understand why my family had to be torn apart, my children hurt so very much. We surivied. My OS has had some very rough times, and maybe at 20 finally getting it togther. But still why? Were any of us better off?

However tonight I had what FlyLady if you read her site calls a God's Breeze. Maybe we had to go through all this so my YS could help his friends through the same things. His best friend has been dealing with his parents split up for over a yr, and while YS doesn't talk very much about it, I know they talk.

But this afternoon, a friend of YS came by and then they went back to this kid's house. YS calls later about going to the movies. The other kid's mom gets on the phone, and she said you know I am sorry you had to go through this but it is so good for her son to have my YS, someone who has been there, done that and surivied.

For some reason this really helped me.....you think after all this time I would not need the help.....

Sing...the same thing has happened here. 4.5 years ago, my ex walked out and has only seen the boys about 10 times since.

A boy the same age as my oldest son had his mother walk out on him, his younger sister, younger brother and father. My son has talked to him and tried to help him deal with this.

Makes you understand a little more about God, doesn't it?

Mitzi <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

HI SING! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

It's me, Sheryl (used to be new_beginning) and it's been ages since I've seen you. I don't hang out a lot, but have been very worried about my friend TnT and have been lurking and posting a bit. I'm so glad to see you!

God's Breeze... what a lovely thought... and how true.

It is *amazing* how things that can hurt sooooooo bad can become a blessing to someone else.

I have always felt this way about my son's disabilities. My son (and I, as I went through the process of finding him help) has touched many lives... He, simply by being "him" and hanging in there through all his traumas... and me, as I've helped people find the laws, tools and support they need for their own disabled children...

... and there are some I 'spose we'll never know of... you know what I mean? Sometimes we don't know *who* we touch - a'la George Bailey's experience in "It's a Wonderful Life"...

Love it...

And again, very, very nice to see you!

Well, well. Look who popped back in!

Sing, that's a very nice post. I don't have much to add, but I'm glad to see that you sound like you're doing well.

Just out of curiosity, are you still in the same location? You may recall that I work in the vicinity, though that will end within 6-9 months.

Take care,

Steve

sing,

It's patients that we must have to see what it is that God has planned for us or what it is we are going through. I am glad that you have been shown and that your ys son has learned from this and has the compassion to be a friend and mentor to someone else, that is truly a blessing!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Sing, what a good story. I, too, sometimes wonder why my family had to go through this. And then I see glimpses of the blessings it has brought.

If you are ever up this direction, give me a holler.

Nyneve, good to see you around. I have noticed a few postings from you. I could still use that FGM if you wanted to drop in on the kingdom.

Mitzi, good to see you around, too.

Daybreak, same goes for you.

For that matter, anyone may drop in there. The more the merrier.

How lovely, Sing.

I agree with Dawn about God’s plan. It’s so awesome when we catch glimpses of how God turns even evil to good ends.

And your story could have come at a better time for me.

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I just LOVE reading posts from those I know and love!

Hey all...

sing, it is soooo true. God will turn all things to good.... even the poor choices of others that affect our lives, if we let Him.

Good to see a post from you.

Cali

Sing,

Thank you for sharing....sometimes it is hard to make sense of all of the mess...but it has definitely opened my eyes on what people and kids going through a divorce experience.

Are you going to teach this year? How is the rest of your life doing. Have you had a great summer?

Take care--think of you often Pat