Let me start by admitting that i do have a tendency to be a jealous man. I do not see that as a bad thing all in all but i do things some times that i an ashamed of. My wife (3 1/2 years) is planning a trip "back home" for a friends wedding out of curiosity (she has been acting strange) i took a look at her e-mail and found that she is planning to meet with an old boyfriend while she is away. this is how a few of the emails went.

from ob

"I am beside myself right now; I can’t believe its you!! I miss you too, very much so. I just got in to work this morning and got your e-mail now I got butterflies in my tummy. : ) How did you find me? Did your sister get the e-mail that I had sent? I have been wondering about you. How is everything in XXX? Bigger?? Lol lol I am still here in XXX having a great time. I work for an accounts receivable management company, basically a collection agency. I do a lot of sales here. It’s pretty nice; at least the pay is I guess. I get tired of the hustle, and always having to crunch #’s every month though. Thinking about going back to a salary only position so I don’t have to feel like I’m selling again but we will see. I take it you work for XXX, how is that going, and what do you do for them? How is the family? How big is the family now? How has my XXX been? Good lord I don’t know where to start. I thought about you on your birthday!! I tried to find you and wish you a happy one. I did a lot of skip tracing on you, I found you and all your addy’s in XX but couldn’t find a up to date #, plus I really didn’t want to call and get you in trouble. I am still single and without child. Me and XX live together though. I bought my great-grandmothers house over by XXX if you remember where that is. Oh yeah that reminds me Granny died about 2 yrs ago too… that sucked. On a good note though, XXX had another baby boy I think he is about 6 months old now. What an uncle can’t even remember when he was born. You need to send me pictures!! I want to see you. This way they won’t get lost or stolen out of the mail. I have another e-mail address that I can check at home too. XXX and XXX I can’t check my mail here at home. I would recommend though if you used one of those addy’s to use the Bellsouth one cause the hotmail account is used for junk most of the time and I just delete things in bulk, and I would hate it if I did that to your e-mail. Well sweetheart I guess I will close this for now, you have a lot of writing back to do as it is and I need to get started on some work. I want to hear back from you today!!! Can you get pic’s at this addy? If so I will find some for you. I still will always love you!!!! : )

XXX

from w

So sweet… Crying tears of joy, happiness to hear from you and sadness altogether. It’s good to know that you feel the same as I do. What is the best way to stay in touch without getting you into any trouble? I don’t want us to loose touch as we did before!

from ob

You didn’t write much, what makes you sad though, didn’t understand that part to much. Hey can you call me back?

from w

Hey,

B4 U GO! I get into INDY around 10:30 AM on Saturday. PLEEASSEEE!!!!!!!! MAKE IT HAPPEN! I haven’t made any plans yet because I wanted to be able to see you. I don’t leave until Tuesday at 5 PM. I am working at the Indy office Mon and Tues.

PLEASE!! I will send you picts tomorrow. But I must warn you. I don’t have picts with just me alone or any without my sunglasses because it has been so scorching hot!

from w

Hampton Inn South XXX Saturday thru Monday night. Sad because of different reasons. --But extremely happy to hear from you. Don’t want to really put it into an email. I will try hard to give you a call tomorrow when there aren’t ears around everywhere! I have soooo much I want to talk with you about! I think of you daily!

This hurts could it be innocent?? or do i start packing?

confused&hurt:

I would step back for a moment and calm yourself.

Has your wife said anything at all to you about this?

What things are you doing that your ashamed of?

How is your relationship with your wife? Does she seem distant or uninvolved with you?

Are there any other issues that are going on right now with her?

My gut feeling on this is your wife is involved in an emotional affair and it seems that it may progress into a physical one as well.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I thought about you on your birthday!! I tried to find you and wish you a happy one. I did a lot of skip tracing on you, I found you and all your addy’s in XX but couldn’t find a up to date #, plus I really didn’t want to call and get you in trouble. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> So sweet… Crying tears of joy, happiness to hear from you and sadness altogether. It’s good to know that you feel the same as I do. What is the best way to stay in touch without getting you into any trouble? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Sad because of different reasons. --But extremely happy to hear from you. Don’t want to really put it into an email. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Interesting that they both are afraid they are going to get into trouble. Why would they think that if this was an innocent rendevous?? You said it hurts.... I think you really know the answer to your question. Check the website again about secrets in marriage and recreational companionship, and how affiars start. Nip this in the bud. You are not pleased, that means this is not acceptable to your marriage. Right??

Oh, this has the potential to be very dangerous.

Is there any way you can make the trip, too? Tell her you just found out that you could go?

After all, she shouldn't be doing anything she would mind you knowing about.

One of the bad things about e-mail is you can always get another free address.