This may be a ramble but am curious to see what you guys think of this, I am not reading into it too much but my gut feeling is she is looking for me to wiggle and I am not budging and inch.
Well, I am prepared for her impending implosion and I think it has begun...or began 2 weeks ago when I posted a thread regarding her threat of a Restraining Order being issued and 4 hours later her telling me she might have cut me off before and maybe I wanted to talk some more? WTF???
Anyway, she returned here on Monday and left today. She flared with me on the phone Monday regarding some issues about bills and such and left a couple of nasty messages regarding the fact I rounded up some personal items in the home and tossed them in the garbage....but the real kicker was last night.
She told me 2 weeks ago she was moving out (thank God, she has taken a job in NY after finishing her temp internship role) so I ended up changing the greeting on our telephone to reflect just me. Well, I did not return her calls yesterday (why should I) and she came in to the home last night at 9:45PM and grabbed the home phone and told me she is changing the message back, she still lives here, still pays half the bills, still has people call her here, etc. I told her you told me 2 weeks ago you moved out and that is why I changed the message. I then told her to discuss this with her L and we will arrange an equitable split of the bills...and then I walked out...she tried calling and I did not pick up.
So, this morning at 6:15AM she comes over and makes coffee and changes the dishwasher and brings me a cup to say she is sorry about last night, she overreacted. She then sits in our bathroom staring at me with no shirt on (I'm looking pretty good). I finally say I will meet you downstairs in a minute.
I ask her what the deal is and she says that I could have whatever message on the phone I want. I reiterate to her that whatever she wants is fine since she pays the phone bill. She then says no, whatever I want is fine and she does not want her to "get in my way". I ask what does that mean and she says if I want to change the message, fine, in case I want to give out my number to someone. I say, don't worry about me, I'm fine. Maybe fishing for information about what I am up too, I guess?
She then twirls her hair a little bit and we make lots of eye contact..she then asks whether I still want to list the house (yes) and if it sells quick do I have a place to go (yes)...and we end up leaving a few minutes later (see yeah).
Anyway, I have probably heard my WS apologize maybe 5 times over 10 years, this was the weirdest and overall the last few weeks have been weird. I guess it's only going to get worse as I am shooting for alimony starting tomorrow on our teleconference call.
Anyway, thanks for reading and passing along your thoughts. I am standing on firm ground with my dignity intact and knowing my self-preservation and future are at stake.
Nature
