What does the bible say about DIVORCE? is it ok to divorce and if so for what reasons?

<small>[ November 23, 2004, 08:00 PM: Message edited by: manalone ]</small>

The summarized version as I understand it:

Don't take divorce lightly. If you divorce casually, you can cause your spouse to commit adultery.

Jesus said that infidelity was one thing that broke the binding effect of marriage. (Matt 5:31)

Paul said that if an unbeliever did not want to stay married, we are not bound in such circumstances. 1 Cor 7:15

There are many more verses about M and the old & new testament gives a picture of some of the same marital struggles that we have today. I suggest you find a concordance and read all verses on divorce. Let God speak to you and find out what God has to say to you personally.

Why are you asking? are you trying to decide on divorcing or is someone wanting to divorce you?

TW

If you really want answers on how divorce is viewed in the Bible....try Divorce Care. Divorce Care is a program that is available in most local churches (the program itself is non-denominational). It is not just for divorced, or divorcing, it is also for couples that are separated. It is an excellent program based in Christian values. You will find the answers there.

manalone,

What does the bible say about DIVORCE? is it ok to divorce and if so for what reasons?--

TR--I guess a more pertitant question would be what does God say about MARRIAGE??

What does He say about how a husband should love his wife?

So instead of asking about divorce--ask yourself have loved your wife as Christ loved the Church??

Read up on how Christ loves the Church to get a better idea how you fit in there--

<small>[ November 24, 2004, 09:29 AM: Message edited by: ThornedRose ]</small>

I'm curious ManAlone, why do you ask?

In your 1st post you stated your wife is divorcing you, seeing another man, and you wanted to know when to start dating.

Now you're looking for biblical references to divorce. It's obviously a time full of confussion and if you're looking for some help/support it would be benifical to give us a little background.

The upcoming season is not going to be easy and I wish you the best.

" Take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife if his youth. For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce,"for it covers ones garments with violence," says the Lord of hosts. Therefore take heed to your spirit that you do not deal treacherously.

Malachi 2: 15-16


" Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge."

Hebrews 13:4

" Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife."

1 Corinthians 7:10,11

WDIGFH, you stopped your "Corinthians" a little short:

1 Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so; in such a case the brother or sister is not bound. It is to peace that God has called you.

Consider what the Bible says about marriage -- submit to one another....

Did you ever have a marriage? Do you have one now?

Sorry about the 1 Corintians ending short - those were just the verses in my Power of a Praying Wife book I saw today while I was praying and then I happened to see that topic and thought I would put them in there.

Yes, I've been married 7 1/2 yrs and we have a 3 yr old son. H told me on his birthday about 35 days ago that he doesn't love me anymore, hasn't in a while, wants out, and I also found out about his EA that's been going on for 2 months + which he says has nothing to do with anything - he just hates me and wants out.

I've been quite submissive throughout our whole marriage and thought we really loved each other and that he would never consider leaving me and our son.

I've been seeking God continually and He is doing great things in my life in spite of whats going on but H still comes home everyday and acts like he can't stand me no matter how kind and gracious I am to him. My favorites this weekend were " You want me to be honest - I'll be honest with you - I don't give a rat's a$$ about you ! " Also I loved the fact that he just blatently now goes outside to talk to her on the phone and that she called Sun evening on his cell. I actually picked it up not even thinking and said " I'm sorry he's spending time with his family right now " as kind as I could.

A little over a month ago I thought we had a happy little life and I had a H who told me he loved me everyday and kissed me good-bye. Now he just walks out and says "Have a good day " to which I'm thinking yeah right as soon as I dig this dagger out of my heart again.