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jaaphillen: Fun thread!! And we need some fun around here.

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i can't resist,

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W: May 29, 1954 (female)

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You are born in 1958, in the year of the DOG. He-ex59: PIG. He43: GOAT.. She-new wife68: MONKEY.
On the "Character Combination Card" is mentioned for long term living together of
DOG-wife with PIG-man "good"
Great. Love based om mutual understanding and esteem. A kind and agreeable relationship despite their differing attitudes toward life. Both are robust, open and honest and like doing their best whenever possible. However, the Dog could be aggressive and will not withhold her criticism if the Pig is too self-indulgent or lax in his duties. She is not as passionate as he, and may lack understanding of his large appetites and sensuality. Still, they could find common grounds for cooperate as the Dog has more insight than the Pig and will be loyal to him. Likewise, the Pig is tolerant and generous enough to forgive the Dog's peculiarities and see her as the trustworthy and noble ally she is.
DOG-wife with GOAT-man "difficult"
No! This would be too much! They are both too pessimistic. It would be sad. This realtionship will probably not work as the Dog is too realistic and will naturally criticize the Goat's indulgence and enumerate his weaknesses, thus making him more pessimistic than ever. She is reasonable and affectionate enough, but not always willing to resort to the little white lies necessary to placate his touchy feelings.. He needs a lot of compassion and support to be able to put his best side forward. She is unsympathetic and hardy and can be irked by his complaining and self-gratification. Not much congeniality here as each tends to bring out the other's negative traits.
MONKEY-wife with PIG-man "perhaps"
Why ever not? The Monkey admires the Pig.
A fairly civil union, but they may not be really fascinated by each other's real personality. The Pig is too straightforward and scrupulous for the complicated Monkey. She has more pungent tastes and the Pig will definitely be too bland. On the other hand, while the Monkey is deviously charming, her basic intricacy and pretentiousness may prove too much for him. Both are bound to be irritated and bruised by the incapacities of the other. Still, they could make a go of this match if they can figure each other out and concentrate on their positive qualities. An ancient saying: "When the Pig meets the Monkey, there are always tears". Bye, Jaap Hillen

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You are born in 1958, in the year of the DOG. He60: RAT. He57: ROOSTER.
DOG-wife with RAT-man "perhaps".
Interesting. It could work if the Rat is not too often at home. The Dog will hover if he is. The danger in this match is that they may both do too much compromising and end up with a too bland realtionship that makes them uninterested in each other.
DOG with ROOSTER:
As friends, not living together: "difficult"
There's a barrier between them, a fence, a wall, a ditch, a world.
DOG-wife with ROOSTER-man for long time living together: "difficult".
No. The Dog is not very good at suffering fools. Her cynicism would out. In spite of their self-assurance and poise, they are also very outspoken. If the Rooster starts to nag and grumble about the Dog's frailties, she could respond by throwing harmony out the window and giving him some scalding rhetoric of her own. Both parties have sharp tongues and could hurt each other quite painfully. A workable relationship only if one of them is unselfish and sensible enough to entice the other to lay down arms.
Bye, Jaap Hillen

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She is born in 1954, in the year of the HORSE. He57: ROOSTER.
On the "Character Combination Pocket Card" is metioned for long term living together of
HORSE-wife with ROOSTER-man "difficult".
No, She'd lose the man among the fine feathers! For her, love is a serious thing. A smooth marriage is not indicated as these two strong-minded individuals are easily irritade by each other. He can be provocative and undiplomatic and will castigate her for her high living and lack of steadiness. But she is too sophisticated, witty an flamboyant to settle for the simple and hard-working life he has planned. He cannot comprehend her changeable ways and she cannot abide his strict routine and obsession wih facts and figures. Bye, Jaap Hillen

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Jaaphillen,
thanks for the answer. You made me think about that, maybe even have still hope for ex's comeback, but the goat worries me. Cause he is a sailor, we'll see in Oct if you were right.
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Hi,

me: 20 Sept 1963

Him: 06 Nov., 1950

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You are born in 1963, in the year of the CAT. He50: TIGER.
On my "Character Combination Pocket Card" is indicated in "Life Partner" for long term living together of
CAT-wife with TIGER-man "perhaps".
It would be stretching it a bit, but they understand one another. And the female Cat knows how to hold her own with the Tiger.
The demure Cat may be attracted to the rugged and appealing Tiger man but when she takes a closer look she may be frightened by his impulsiveness and daring. He on the other hand cannot appreciate her moody and worrying nature. She is rational and opportunistic while he is led by his feelings and has little need for diplomacy and tact.. She is polite and sensitive. He is loud and spontaneous. Both will have to make a major effort to put up with each other's idiosyncrasies. Bye, Jaap Hillen

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jaaphillen,

Thanks for the answer. You make me think about my husband and I....I filed the divorce end of May. He has an affair....but he told me it's over now.
Whatever, it's hurt. We really need to make all effort to put up with our idiosyncrasies.
Thanks again for your effort.

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Hi,
Would you please give me a try too?

me - Aug 13, 69 Female
H - May 19, 70 Male

1 son -Jan 23, 2001

Any thoughts our way?
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This could be interesting.... please provide information for my H and I.

Me: June 13, 1960
My H: May 26, 1948

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You are born in 1969, in the year of the ROOSTER. He70: DOG. Son01 is born before the 24th of January and belongs to 2000, the year of the DRAGON..
On my 'Character Combination Card' is indicated in 'Life Partner' for long term living together of
ROOSTER-wife with DOG-man "difficult"
Only if it is absolutely necessary. Let the lady organize tea parties and bridge games, and all may be well.
A cool to moderate coexistence is in store for this couple. Both are discriminating and forthright souls who may be easily
displeased with each other's faults. Normally, they may strive harder to be more agreeable, but this match could bring out their most offensive traits, making them willful and uncompromising. Both are too quick to retaliate when challenged and can be fierce fighters. The Dog is nice and easygoing only as long as you keep out of his hair. The Rooster is virtuous and equally sincere in her efforts, but she has much more too rigid a outlook to suit the Dog. She will make him feel like she is out to reform him and he will never stand for that.
In 'Parent-Child':
ROOSTER-mother with DRAGON-son "good".
But the Rooster admires her baby Dragon a little too much, and that can mean trouble.
DOG-father with DRAGON-son "difficult".
Brr! Dog and Dragon are each other's opposites. These two don't get on at all. The Dragon can not bear the criticisms which the Dog, with his clear mind, continuously aims at him. What can you do?!!!
*** Make sure that the child never has to ask whether you love him.
*** Make sure it never has to feel the need to make a good impression.
*** Cuddling!!! Listening!!! Prais!!!
+ Never say: "You are a horrible child!", but only criticize specific disobedience.
+ Even if the child is not "the apple of your eye", behave as if he is.
+ Kind and strict. Consistent strictness with love gives the child a sense of security.
+ Make sure that your child is certain that you highly esteem it, till 18 year, especially till 5 year. Bye, Jaap Hillen

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You are born in 1960, in the year of the RAT. He 1948, also in the year of the RAT.
RAT-wife with RAT-man "good"..
Two Rats love one another wih an especially tender affection. What a love affair! Like this, the rest of the world can go hang.
A bit too much togetherness. They may both be too conscientious and domesticated. When they are too alike, they could suffer from overexposure to each other's personality. Mr. Rat could be more easygoing than Mrs. Rat here, who may have an inclination to be fussy and bossy. Two worldly and calculating signs who may watch each other rather intently and not like the close-up picture they see..
There subcharacters of the month of birth do also have the same sign, Horse (gemini). They both have RAT/Horse.
Bye, Jaap Hillen

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Jaap hillen,
Thanks for the information.
The relationship between my H and son is one I'd already worried about.
Does your chart work with due dates? We're expecting our second child Feb 17, 2003. Any thoughts on adding him/her to the mixture?
Also, who are the rooster and dragon compatible with? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
Thanks!
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You: ROOSTER. He: DOG. Son: DRAGON.
Baby on the way: from the 2nd of February 2003 the year of the GOAT.
Rooster-mother with Goat-child 'difficult'.
The tolerance factor in this combination is very low. For upgrading 'difficult' into 'good' please
see my advice in my previous massage.
Dog-father with Goat-child also 'difficult'
Discouraged, the Dog may and up by washing his hands of the Goat. Please see my advice!
The Goat is the most feminine sign of the zodiac. He is righteous, sincere and easily taken in by sob stories. He is likely to be mild- mannered, even shy. At his best, he is artistic, fashionable and a creative worker. At his worst, he tends to be easily overcome by his emotions, pessimistic and withdrawn. He dislikes strict schedules and cannot take too much discipline or criticism. The Goat is a lightweight in dominance.
Occupation for the Goat: actor, artist, fashion designer, interior architect, industrial designer, potter, art critic, illustrator, animator, window-dresser, toy designer, inventor, musician.
Rooster is compatible with Ox, Dragon and Snake.
Dragon is compatible with Rat, Monkey, Rooster and Pig.
Bye, Jaap Hillen

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This looks like fun, let's give it a try.

Me - 1/12/72
Him - 1/1/68
DS - 7/30/93
DD1 - 12/23/96
DD2 - 3/24/02

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me too:

me 02/02/72
him 12/11/72

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One more. Thanks.

Me: 10/22/71
Him: 1/13/64

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US TOO

ME: 1/13/73
Her: 9/2/73

D: 8/31/95
S: 12/29/98

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Me too, me too please!
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