I have to MB for a week now, trying to figure out and sort things out. Still very confused with whats going on.
I have posted 2 topics on here, only got a couple of responses, thought i would have gotten more.
"I Feel like i am married but not", "How do i fix my relationship w/ex"
Its been 11 days since i have ate, I try but cant, i hurt so bad, never felt this way before in my life. How do i fix this with the love of my life, when he doesn't?

How can someone just turn off their feelings overnight?.. Can someone just snap like that, have no emotional feelings?.

I have read alot of articles, and read his needs and her needs. read alot of Dr. Harleys articles on here. Doesn't to seem to be helping much. It does and doesn't. I have talked to friends and family explaining whats been going on. How EX/H has been acting and what has been going on with him. They all feel that he has gotten Seasonal Depression.

Here is some of things that happen to or whats going on with him. He works construction. "drywall finisher/painter".
1. Didn't get some big bids that he thought he was going to get.
2.Regular job not going good at work."going over schedule."
3.High utilities for month of December.
4.Wondering why he bought new vehicle which he uses for side jobs.
5.paying for 2nd soon to be ex/wifes loan.
51/2.trying to get another loan to pay that off,which is at a high interest rate place,thats going no where.
6.ex wife not wanting to sign divorce papers.
7.Got paid from this one place he works for/on the side. then paid bills then all gone.
8.constantly stating that he has no money, not used to being so broke.
9.The kids have been moody. fighting and arguing w/each other.
10. I worked alot in December.Not home much.
11. I have been to tired for sex emotionally and physically. for the past couple of months.
12. Christmas this month.
13.paying for xmas on credit card.
14. Credit card got huge. which he doesnt like.

I know i forgot somethings, but if u can see. thats alot there. I am not shrink, but thats alot for someone to go through. And instead of having to admit that this is bothering him. he is stating that he doesnt love me no more, that its been building up, and its killing him inside.

My honest oppinion is that his mind has been on overload and he is using me as the punching bag in his mind. bring up the past so its me thats doing this too him emotionally. Why all of a sudden that he built a wall up towards me? Does he feel its my fault that all this is happening to him? So to get rid of his problems starts with me?
Lies where he goes, stays away from me. wont let me touch him doesnt kiss me no more even no more "I love you"s. Says hurtful things, Says he doesnt care if the boys are mad at him and he never sees them again.
I seen our minister talked it helped a little, he agreed to see her. Found out last night that he just called her. Told me he went and seen her.
told her that he will see her when he feels like he needs to see her..
PLEASE HELP ME..What do i do?? Tired of crying and hurting, My body cant handle this emotionally and physically!
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Babe,

Welcome to MB'rs. I'm sorry that you haven't received as many responses as you'd of liked too. I didn't look up your previous posts but after reading this one I'm lost and confused...

You are in a relationship with a man going through his 2nd divorce who has problems with his kids and ex's and work and and and... Is that pretty much what's going on?

Could you please give us a little relationship background? Are y'all shacking up? Do you have kids? Who exactly is the minister talking to? I will say from the beginning that the only thing that you can do is work on yourself.

thank you for responding. I am the first wife that got back with my ex. Moved back in with him 4 months ago, things were great except for these past 2 weeks.

i left him 5 years ago. had hystericotomy lost my mind, found a man over internet, got divorced instead of helping myself. We have been seeing each other before i moved back in almost 2 years.

The misister i seen is the one that preaches at his family church and we used to go to. She isnt no counslor. But i finally resolved and apologized to his parents. He was happy for that. they are the one who said to talk to the minister.

I do have a doctor appointment today. Made an appointment with a counselor in a couple of weeks. Basically i am trying to figure out him. Is it seasonal depression or did he find someone else?
i am just totally confussed

He may just be emotionally withdrawn, rather than an affair. Life is hard, sometimes it just gets us down.
Work on becoming a better person and he'll see the changes in you.
Read up on Plan A.

Each day goes by he is getting colder and rude to me. How can anyone just turn off their emotions off like that over night? Now he says he wants to go out and basically find someone else. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> He keeps saying he hasnt found no one else. So why not say he wants to find someone now, to let me think he is searching now.

but in fact he has someone already. I know that i probably sound confusing, but i am at a lost, cant believe all this is happening to me.

Knowing that i am going to be homeless again, and when i moved back in here, i got rid of so much of my stuff to the local Good Will place.

why did he have me move back in, just to get even with me. pay back for what happened 5 years ago.. sorry for going on, but have no one to talk to right now.

where do i find plan A, excuse me, dont get much sleep., mind is doing over time.