Hello,<BR>I'm new to this, so excuse the blunders! I've read some of the topics and my problems don't seem so big now. My husband has had several affairs and this time there is a baby involved. The other woman has already dumped my husband and he is living with another woman now. I am so confused and hurt but then I guess I should have learned the first time. I know I'm not the only one in the world with these kind of problems, but this is just about all I can take. Everyone thinks I should go ahead and divorce him but I keep thinking God will change his heart and bring him back to our family. Any encouraging words?<P> Thanks'<BR> <BR> Downhearted

Downhearted,<P>Welcome to the board and so sorry for your pain. Your H sounds like a serial adulterer and I have not studied that particular kind. I don't know if Dr.H's principles (which he says are over 90% successful) work the same on the serial type. I found the types at <A HREF="http://www.affairs-help.com" TARGET=_blank>www.affairs-help.com</A> very helpful (my H is a conflict-avoider type). You might also find info at <A HREF="http://www.Vaughan-Vaughan.com" TARGET=_blank>www.Vaughan-Vaughan.com</A> helpful as her H was a multiple-adulterer also, but they did recover their marriage. Even with an OC involved, it is possible.<P>Best wishes to you and your kids.<BR>Jenny

Downhearted,<BR>I am not only sorry to hear of your pain but to also hear it has happened before. All I can offer for comfort is an ear and that the assurance that you are in my prayers.<BR>God Bless.

Downhearted,<BR>I'm glad that you found this forum. There are many of us here dealing with an OC from an affair. I'm sorry to hear that your H has caused you so much pain. I agree with Jenny in that it sounds like your H is a serial adulterer. I wish I knew what to say to make you feel better. Take care and please continue to post.<P>Audrey

Dear Down hewarted:<BR>I am so sorry you are going through this! My prayers are for you! and I agree you should take a look at your options and make a decision about what is best for you.<BR>Hang in there!

<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Audrey:<BR><B>Downhearted,<BR>I'm glad that you found this forum. There are many of us here dealing with an OC from an affair. I'm sorry to hear that your H has caused you so much pain. I agree with Jenny in that it sounds like your H is a serial adulterer. I wish I knew what to say to make you feel better. Take care and please continue to post.<P>Audrey</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Audrey-<BR>Thank you for your reply. I don't feel so alone in this awful mess. I wish this was just a bad nightmare. At least I'd be waking up soon. Thanks, but I guess there's nothing anyone can say to make me feel better. I just ask you to keep me in your prayers. <BR> Downhearted

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Jenny:<BR><B>Downhearted,<P>Welcome to the board and so sorry for your pain. Your H sounds like a serial adulterer and I have not studied that particular kind. I don't know if Dr.H's principles (which he says are over 90% successful) work the same on the serial type. I found the types at <A HREF="http://www.affairs-help.com" TARGET=_blank>www.affairs-help.com</A> very helpful (my H is a conflict-avoider type). You might also find info at <A HREF="http://www.Vaughan-Vaughan.com" TARGET=_blank>www.Vaughan-Vaughan.com</A> helpful as her H was a multiple-adulterer also, but they did recover their marriage. Even with an OC involved, it is possible.<P>Best wishes to you and your kids.<BR>Jenny</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Jenny-<P>Thank you for the kind words and info. I will go to these addresses and read them. The words "Serial Adulterer" sound so terrible! I guess I don't want to believe my H could be so low. My H hates conflict also. <BR>Will the images of the OW ever leave my mind?<BR>He has filed for divorce and is not wanting to pay the amount of child support I've asked for. Our court date isn't until Aug. 29th. A lot could happen before then. God can change him, if that's His will. I just don't know if I have that much faith or patience.<BR>I really appreciate your reply. It really helps to talk with others with this in common, though I wish the best for you in your journey through this.<P> Thanks again!<P> Downhearted<BR>

<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Audrey:<BR><B>Downhearted,<BR>I'm glad that you found this forum. There are many of us here dealing with an OC from an affair. I'm sorry to hear that your H has caused you so much pain. I agree with Jenny in that it sounds like your H is a serial adulterer. I wish I knew what to say to make you feel better. Take care and please continue to post.<P>Audrey</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Audrey-<BR>Thank you for your reply. I don't feel so alone in this awful mess. I wish this was just a bad nightmare. At least I'd be waking up soon. Thanks, but I guess there's nothing anyone can say to make me feel better. I just ask you to keep me in your prayers. <BR> Downhearted