<P>saw this in another forum and it was quite interesting.<P>i am 24, H is 27.<P>OW is 28 and OC is 2 1/2.<P>no children, except OC.<P>1 cat.<P>affair happened before our first anniversary. married for 4 1/2 years, and hopefully going for more if we make it thru this!!<P>------------------<BR>happy_girl

Okay, I'll play!<P>I am 37, H is 39 (turn's 40 this month!)<P>OW is 31, OC (girl) is 10 months [OW also has a girl who is 8; OW's marriage recently ended in divorce -- so much for their "open" marriage]<P>We have 3 children (boy - 8 [he'll be 9 in 2 weeks], girl - 3.5, girl - 2)<P>We have 1 lizard & 3 turtles (our cat ran away after our recent move)<P>We have been married for 12 years.<P>-Audrey<p>[This message has been edited by Audrey (edited July 03, 2000).]

I am 21, H is 24. We have been married for 3 1/2 years and have a daughter who is 22 months. <P>OW is 20, never married, and the OC is 3 months (today).

I am 42, H is 45, boys 6 & 7 along with I raised his daughter (now 20) since 8 yrs.<P>OW is 33 & OC is due later this month<P>1 dog & 2 cats<P>togther 3 yrs then married, for a total of 12 yrs in relationship. Affair started last summer until D-day in mid January. H seems very intent on making good life for our boys & doing what it takes to recover from this. <P>

I,m game!<P>I am 38, H will be 39 this month.<P>Children are 12 & soon to be 15 in August, both are girls.<P>Married for 16 years. D-day was 12/3/99. PA ws on going for 2 1/2 years. PA affair ended before D-day.<P>OC is 20 months old<BR>OW is 25? (separated has 2 D 4 & 8)<BR>----------<BR>I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthten me. Phil 4:13<P>ITS

O.K. here goes; I am 42, my husband is 44 the OW is 22!!! We have 4 adopted children; two from Korea and 2 from the Philippines their ages are 14, 11, 8 and 6 along with 2 dogs and 1 cat. We have been married 23 years and should celebrate our 24 anniversary July 23. The OW is due in Dec. The affair(2x) occured in early April and March, our D-Day was April 19. However at the same time a passionate online affair with someone else(whom he never met) was occuring since March. D-Day was for discovering both affairs. Do I believe in midlife crisis'? You bet I do!!<P>[This message has been edited by quakermom321 (edited July 03, 2000).]<p>[This message has been edited by quakermom321 (edited July 03, 2000).]

My H's affair occurred '92. He was 38 & I was 39. Ow was 22. Our children were 16,15,10,4. Affair lasted 1 year, during which I was ignorant of affair until 4mos pregnant w/our 5th child. we had been married 18 years.<BR> Today we are 47 &46, married 26years. the OC and our youngest son are both 6yrs old. Only our oldest son knows of affair & OC. He is now 23. Do I believe in Midlife Crisis, YES!!!!!<BR> We/he have never met the OC, we pay CS, that is it.

texasgirl - our stories and circumstances are very similiar. My oldest knows about affair because he exposed it (he is 14) how does your son feel knowing this about his father? I just hope we are truly in recovery because my husband works with the girl with no chance of changing jobs though she may be transfered at the end of the summer. Midlife crisis for my husband means these affairs along with a lot of scapegoating me for his own inadequecies or choices he's made through the years. Or choices I thought were mutual but turns out were done with resentment. Do I still love him? yes

I'll play.<P>H and I are 32 (married 13 years), son 7, daughter 1yo, dog 7, cat 14 and a turtle.<P>XOW is 27? now; OC is 1yo.

Alright! I am 27, my fiance is 26 our son is 4 and oc is 3. We have been together 8 years, scheduled to marry when I found out about the oc.<P>Oh and one fish...Scuba

I am 25, H is 26<BR>We have 2 boys 3.5 and 10 mths<P>the OW is 23 and the OC is 6 mths<P>We have been married 7 yrs in August<P>Yes, I was 4.5 mths pregnant when this PA happened.

I am 28, H is 28.<P>One daughter, 22 months.<P>OW 26, OC is 25 months. another d 5.<P>No pets. Married almost 4 years.<P>DDay Feb 9, 2000, when papers were served. One nightstand was July 24, 1997.<P>

I'll play too!<BR>H is 30 I am 29, we have a Daughter who is 3.5 years old. Affair happened in Nov 1996, lasted two months , I was by then 7 months pregnant.D- Day was February 20th, OW had the OC in August 1997, only 8 months after mine. OW is 28? 27?<BR>In Nov it will be our 6 year anniversary.<BR>We also have a dog name Simba , who is a Golden Retriever.<BR>We have never seen the OC nor we plan to! <BR>Good is my strenght!<p>[This message has been edited by Fambis (edited July 05, 2000).]

I am 29, H is 29.<P>Together for 12 1/2 years married for 4.<P>One Daughter 2 years old.<P>OW is 24. OC due in February.<P>DD was June 6th. Affair lasted 5 months.

<BR>I am 41 H is 36<BR>OW is thirty something and is 4 1/2 months pregnant.<BR>We have 2 children, boy 11 and girl 6<BR>Married 13 years, together 16 years<BR>I am a Christian, husband says he is.<BR>No pets<BR>H has had several previous affairs. This time H left 1-15-2000 <BR>For some dumb reason, I still love him!<BR>

Hi Everyone!<P>H and I are both 45.<P>We have 2 boys - 13 and 18.<P>I think OW is either my age or a couple of years younger. (She has a 22 year old daughter.)<P>OC is 3 years old.<P>H has partial custody so we have OC every other weekend.

Thanks guys! Now we know a little more about eachother! Take care and let's all be strong. Pray and try to remember to be thankful for what we do have... I know, that is sometimes difficult but it can change me around right quick sometimes.<P>happy_girl(BTW my name is Pepper )<p>[This message has been edited by happy_girl (edited July 08, 2000).]

Youch! You are all such PUPS! Mere Babes...<P>David is 51 physically, about 19 or 20 emotionally...in 1998 he was about 13 yrs old emotionally, so I suppose there has been some improvement.<P>I am 51, but if I pretend to be dyslexic, I am 15! OK! That's better. Oh, to be 15 and have the knowledge I have today...<P>OW is 35. OC is 10 months old.<P>She LOOKS 51 and I look 35...er, maybe 40-ish anyway...so there is some justice in this world.<P>Our kids are 33, 30 & 28..Dave Jr and Angie are David's from a previous marriage that I raised since they were 7 & 9 years old.<P>We have no children together, of which I have always felt a very deep sadness.<P>We currently have no pets (watering a plant too high maintenance for me right now) and my son Chris just announced today that he is getting married in September and I like her.<P>We have two grandchildren.<P>None of our kids know about OW or OC.<P>Catnip =^^=

<BR>Hi Catnip! =^^=<P>I responded in the other thread, but while I'm at it...I'm 36, my W is 39. We have a son 5, a daughter 3, and a second son 18 months. Married 14 years, together 16 years. 2 cats and no OC. I'm a friend of Catnip's. I'm interested in custody/child support reform, and I'd also like to write a screenplay about Catnip's life one of these days.<P>Bystander

just bringing this to the top so the newbies can read and get to know some of us!! and add theirs too!<P>------------------<BR>happy_girl