Jenny has a wonderful point. This site is about healing and saving marriages. <P>I'm a woman of action (or passivity) in this case. How about we just ignore the posts from OW. UNLESS the posts are genuinely about healing and understanding (as in Duranie).<P>OR How about we each write to the OW and tell them why they are not welcomed here. <BR>I agree, we should be wise about who we invite to post and read on this message board. I'm sure there are other sites that would help the OW heal from the pain they've experienced, but just like I would tell them to find their own husband...find your own site and support system!<P>Does anyone have suggestions on how we can rededicate this message board to the purpose of healing ourselves and our relationships? <P>I guess this is the mixed blessing the technology age has ushered in. In one way, we get to have the support we need in an anonymous fashion, but on the other hand, we can't control who comes in. HOWEVER, we CAN and SHOULD control how we react to it. Let's not run away. Let's make them find their own safe haven!!!!!