My sister just called to say my niece was going to be "partner" w ow 2nd grade son at first reconciliation mass tonight. Well someone at church must know what's going on bcuz when my sister picked my niece up after school she said,"Mommy they changed my partner(walk down aisle with) at school today and I don't even know why"<P>Who knows, my sister didn't change it cuz she didn't know till daughter told her today!<BR>My sister would have cried if that happened.<P>I told her to call to let me know if OW is showing yet. I'm dying to know.<P>So much for First Communion in May.I'll be a mess seeing her and oc there! Not fair,dammit!!! My niece is my Goddaughter!<P> Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Dear Debi,<P>Every time I read one of your posts I get more and more shocked by what you are being put through.<P>Having your H make this proclamation that he cannot live with the OC; and then to have to deal with seeing the woman and OC at an occasion that is supposed to be so sacred and special for your niece/goddaughter... we all better play for strength for you to get through this whole ordeal.<P>You seem to be making some pretty serious decisions about your future. I understand what you say about not being able to live with the involvement of the OW/OC. It is a lifelong commitment and not every person can face that.<P>But, I know how difficult it must be to weigh the effects on the family that you are trying to salvage with the wear and tear on your emotional self. I give you so much credit for having the ability to be in touch with your true feelings and to make tough decisions knowing that your unhappiness will not last forever.<P>All of us, no matter what choices me make, I believe, will make it. Everyone on this board has shown such strength of character that I know God cannot abandon us. <P>We are here for you, Gemini1, during the difficult months ahead and I hope that you will be able to draw comfort and support from us. We care ...<BR>- Heavenly

Ya know what Heavenly? A lot of people there knew what was up and told my sister. We never told anyone!<P>She sat one row behind my sister and her H. she was alone w/her other 2 kids. The 2nd grade Moms got wind of it somehow and it spread like wildfire. My sister and I feel immensely sorry for her 11 yr old daughter and 6 yr old daughter.Rumors will fly about their Mom.Not to mention 8 yr old boy.<P>My sister said she had her full length black mink on and only looked wide.<P>She's only 30. And rich. But I'm telling you I look so much better! I'm 17 yrs older. I know I look and will always act better than her sorry [censored].<P>My husband doesn't want her or baggage.(his tough luck)<BR>I will move on for myself if he carries on fantasy of being part time dad.<P>My son and I should be 1st. PERIOD!<P>Anyone else has to do what is best for their situation!<P>Bless us all. I've never expressed myself as much as I have here and I love you all for listening.<P> Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Gemini, <P>I admire you for standing up for yourself. I don't think I could ever have contact with OW/OC and I don't think our H's should expect that of us. If my H would want to have contact, I know I would have to leave. Cold hearted, I guess, but I couldn't handle it.<P>Bless us all, <BR>Eraser