Trying to learn grow and change. Have read 95% of "His Needs Her Needs"
Reading and in the middle of "Fall in Love, Stay in Love"
Today "The Songs" came, as well as the CD (buyers, renters, freeloaders)
I have copied all the questionnaires. For fun, We did the recreational questionnaire this past weekend. ( He so far thinks 15 hours together is out of the question.)

The books are usually on my desk open, depending on which I am reading, or closed.... but they are on the desk. I am hoping that he will take an interest in one of the titles and begin to read one of the books for himself without me saying anything.

Should I ask him to fill out the emotional questionnaire next?
( Before he even reads a book?) Will he ever pick up one of the books on his own and read it? If he does not...do I continue on my own? I feel like this is one sided. But I dont want to pressure him.

I also am in the middle of listening to Boundaries in Marriage. Thank You.

<small>[ April 28, 2003, 05:32 PM: Message edited by: gina_in_love ]</small>

Gina,

This topic is appropriate for other boards. Have you visited any other boards at this site?

As for asking your H to do the questionnaires, I say go for it. If you can gently draw him in, he may start to realize the efficacy of these methods and want to employ them.

If not, you can continue to make yourself a better wife.

Come on over to Emotional Needs board and share your story <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Emotional Needs

Petals

Oh! Well, I thought "books" would not be emotional but, something "other" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I am not too swift figuring boards out. By the way...We did to the emotional needs questionnaire today. As I was filling out the bottom of each page...I realized, oh, this is why some people should do love busters first! So, that part was a little shaky. (I was afraid to read his and I wanted to word mine in such a way that didnt hurt him or make him angry or upset.

Do you know what? Sometime around my very first post here....(about the time I was about to go off the deep end) I think I did some emotional healing...I slept and average of 16 hours per day for 2 to 2-1/2 weeks. (the most was 20 hours) For a while there I could not figure out what was going on...The thing of it is, afterwards...I was no longer afraid to think about telling my husband how I felt. I was ready for that ultimate rejection. So, today was a big day...because out it came....(in the emotional needs questionnaire) Now I just have to see what happens. I think he is still in shock. Not sure what he is going to do. But I am free of a burden. (I think) ! Thanks! I still havent figured out how to receive emails from postings. Thank you for replying.

<small>[ April 30, 2003, 07:33 PM: Message edited by: gina_in_love ]</small>