Hi everyone!!!
I am ~Chestnutheart~
Happily taken mother of more then half a dozen and I love every minute of it. He has a few I have a few and we are learning to blend. So any sites for blended families would help Also, looking for sites that can help me to be a better spouse, lover, friend, and mother. Welcome all advice, even a little ctiticism. I am blount and out-spoken, but an all around nice person; If given half the chance.

Hi MB Folks,

I am new to this forum. I've known about it for a while (through friends), but never posted or read at length. Things are going quite well between my husband & me -- most of the time. We are both willing to stay married and work on our issues. I guess I am here to discover some coping tools and ideas.

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I'm new here! Just joined a little bit ago. This looks like a nice and helpful place!!



Rayne

hi, I need help in resolving marrage problems. I have run out of options on what to do. please help

ShannenThomas - Try a new post in the general questions section.

Quick question. Is there a location that I can find out what all the acronyms mean? I have figured out many of them, but some are just indecipherable. Thank you.

Under the Infidelity - Just Found Out Forum, top post are the abbreviations/acronyms listing. Welcome, April12...I remember how confusing they were!

LA

Quick question- I am new but have tried posting in general-
other topics and in infidelity-recovery. How often can I expect responses? I apologize for sounding impatient but this is my last hope. Thanks also for the abbr. list-very helpful.

Thanks. Looking forward to the conversation...and helpful suggestions.

hi! am also new here and am also interested in learning more about infidelity, particularly on how does one know if a spouse is being unfaithful or not? are there signs? should i be worried if he seems distant? how does one know if a spouse is happy or unhappy in their relationship? how do you get an answer from your better half without making it sound like a big issue if he's not much of a talker? have been married for almost 2yrs now and ours was a whirlwind romance. i know he cares for me but i feel he's not "in love" with me. but i also think sometimes i might just be over-reacting...help? someone?

Welcome, MrsSoup,

You have posted in General Discussion Other Topics forum. Your post may get over looked...you can copy it into a new post in a forum made for you! Infidelity General Questions II...and it gets the most traffic.

You can use the search feature to look up posts on Spying 101...red flags...and other words to find posts to answer your questions. Lots of helpful people here for you.

Should you be worried if he seems distant? Infidelity aside, do you want a marriage with distance? Have you read the articles listed on the top right of your screen...about The Love Bank, Emotional Needs, Love Busters?

I was married to a non-talker...I understand. I learned to communicate, be safe to speak to...by eliminating Love Busters (LBs) and knowing we are separate, whole people...with our own thoughts, feelings and beliefs...and now, I'm married to a talker. Go figger. Same guy.

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Read about the Love Bank and you'll learn that partners can fall back in love...over and over again, with each other. You can have a romantic, fulfilling and thriving marriage...

Of course, since you're the one here, doing the research, then you will be asked about you, your power, what you choose...and in marriage, when one partner changes, then the marital dance will change.

Welcome...keep posting...you're not alone.

LA

Oh, I forgot to tell you how to start your own thread in the Infidelity GQII forum...sorry about that.

When you click on the forum, the list of postings is shown...you'll see a button at the top that says "post"..that's your ticket.

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(Stuff I didn't figure out for months...no worries, 'k?)

LA

Hello All,
I'm new. Have been lurking on the forums and reading the site and I am impressed!

I'm here because after a rocky 18 months, my H has said he wants to divorce/separate. I must admit that I have felt the same way...and have given him quite a few signals of this over the past months. Told him that if he relocates for his job, I did not feel safe going with him... was checking out apartment guides...we've both been angry and fighting for a year or more. We have a 12yr old son who is very upset when we fight.

Now I find that I want to rescue the marriage. One for the sake of our son, and two because a divorce or separation would be a financial disaster, for me mostly, but for him too. He may not realize this...(he's never been able to see a looming financial disaster until he's in the middle of it. One of the sources of our fights.)

He says there is not an OW. Did confess to a "one night stand" on a biz trip.
Says he feels horrible about it.

I'm not so sure....if there is no OW, he's certainly prime meat for one. He has female co-workers, etc. Spends a lot of time 'out' going running...second job at night...business meeting... In the past this didn't bother me as much, but now I'm suspicious and paranoid. Want to know, but don't want to know. And how would I find out anyway?

He says he's willing to try counseling...he says he is in a mid-life-crisis. Says he 'loves' me but isn't "in-love" with me. Says he doesn't want to hurt our son. Says if we split...he wants to be my 'best friend'. SollyCholly...if we split the most I can manage would be some level of civility. My family and co-workers tend to dislike my H, are saying " why would you want to stay with HIM anyway?"

It's true...he "loves" me but isn't "in love" Me? I can't STAND him, but I'm in love with him. So which one of us is crazy?

So here I am, just me and my issues....hoping for solutions...and also keeping in mind that I don't want to let my time on this forum, interfere with "Undivided Attention" so I may not be around an awful lot.