I need to point something out:<P>Moderators are volunteers. We do not work for Marriage Builders - we have day jobs, most of us, and often cannot access the forum during the day. We do what we can within the constraints of our jobs and our lives.<P>Happy_girl was not intentionally banned - it was an unfortunate side effect of the only means we have to ban the interlopers. If her posting privileges have not yet been restored, it is simply because we have either not been able to reach Steve Harley, or because he has not been able to get to the forum due to his counseling committments. While I do understand how important this forum is to all of you, I must ask you all for patience as we take care of this problem.<P>If you hear that any other legitimate users cannot access the forum or if legitimate users receive messages that they have been banned, please have those users email both myself (tempest2@hotmail.com) and Xarelel (xarelel@aol.com) and we will deal with it as quickly and efficiently as we can.<P>Thank you for your understanding and patience.<P>------------------<BR><B>Tempest</B>, Moderator<BR>Marriage Builders Infidelity Forums:<BR><I>General Questions II, Just Found Out...,<BR>Plan A/Plan B, In Recovery</I> <BR>and <I>Read-Only Posts</I>

Tempest,<P>I am sorry that I caused such a ruckus. I was so upset and shocked that I had been banned. Looking at the 2 names of the recent interlopers I can see where there could have been confusion on the names. I am glad that it was all a mistake, but I can tell you that being banned from a support forum will leave you thinking unclearly.<P>Thanks for all the hard work that you, Xarelel and all the other moderators do. I am just glad that it was a mistake!<P>Happy_girl

happy_girl,<P>I'm glad to see you are back. Please email me, I'd like to talk about this privately. Hopefully we can share some information that will help all of us. Tempest2@hotmail.com<BR><P>------------------<BR><B>Tempest</B>, Moderator<BR>Marriage Builders Infidelity Forums:<BR><I>General Questions II, Just Found Out...,<BR>Plan A/Plan B, In Recovery</I> <BR>and <I>Read-Only Posts</I>

YEEEEEAH! Happygirl is baaaack, happygirl is baaaaaa-ack! <P>Thank you moderators for all your hardwork on our behalf. We appreciate all your efforts to keep our boards this wonderful, wonderful support group!

thank you jenny!! my own cheerleader!! LOL. <P>tempest, i emailed you.<P>happy_girl

I think you guys are doing a GREAT job! I am greatful that we now have moderators to help us out, as you both have done in recent days/weeks! We have been able to stop the trouble makers so much quicker, and are able to get back to what this board is all about, helping eachother heal!<P>Again, THANK YOU so much for the job you are doing. Keep up the good work.<P>Tigger

Happy Girl, As usual, I am a couple of days behind. I just read that you were banned and became very upset. Of course when I read it was all a mistake I figured that could have been the only reason. You are such an asset to this support group. Your encouragement and kind words have always been a comfort to me. The creation and upkeep of the phote site is also important to MB members. I just got a scanner so when I get the hang of it I will be sending you a photo. Peace to you and all my friends at MB, Gabi1116

Thank you very much, Tempest and Xarelel, for your time and commitment to these boards!<P>I very much appreciate all of the work you do on top of your day jobs! I am sorry I haven't shown my appreciation--perhaps we should have a party for the moderators...I know we have some great recipes for munchies... Thank you again and again! <P>And, happy girl, welcome back!<P>All the best! --HBC

Tempest and Xarelel:<P>I did not know the moderators were volunteers. This is quite an eyeopener for me who thought you were indeed employees of Steve Harley's. Especially when it seems you two are always around and available to us.<P>You know, we went so long without a moderator, having you both here makes us feel like we have become "legitimized." And the timing couldn't have been more perfect with the onslaught of the interlopers.<P>I truly apprciate your care and concern for us and the way you have handle the problems on this site...especially after a grueling day working elsewhere. Thanks for giving of yourself in your spare (?) time.<P>Respectfully<P>Catnip =^^=

Your appreciation is appreciated <P>Just so you know, I did not post that information so that you all would write nice things. I realized that you haven't had a moderator here since the forum was begun and likely many did not know that we cannot monitor the forum constantly.<P>We are glad that we could be here to help with the recent problems. I will admit, I spent quite a bit of time here reading and researching while the entire thing was going on, and pulled a couple of all nighters trying to find ways to prove that they were all the same two individuals. With as little information as we have available to us (username and IP address for the moderators, and the administrator has access to email addresses - moderators do not), it was a major project to find and assemble the proof so that we could get those people out of here. But we did it, albeit with a small and temporary glitch (sorry, happy_girl!). I hope I am not counting my chickens, but I think they will have a very difficult time if they try to return again.<P>You all pull together in all circumstances. I would just ask you all to breathe a little bit sometimes <P>Thank you all.<P>------------------<BR><B>Tempest</B>, Moderator<BR>Marriage Builders Infidelity Forums:<BR><I>General Questions II, Just Found Out...,<BR>Plan A/Plan B, In Recovery</I> <BR>and <I>Read-Only Posts</I>

Absolutely. And the one thing we should all try to do is NOT OVERREACT. If and when we find we have party crashers in our midst, we will simply not respond and alert the Moderators. I admit I am very guilty of sparring with interlopers because I enjoy a good fight but I promise to refrain.<P>If in the future one of us is 'banned' due to mistaken identity, again we will not overreact, realize it must be a mistake and simply alert the Moderators.<P>The important thing is to not sweat the small stuff when we have such monumental issues to deal with on a daily basis. I know that sometimes we can get sucked into other lesser issues because it feels good to be distracted for a moment and to fix a small problem rather than the overwhelming tsunami before us.<P>I suppose, Tempest, that you were dog chow at your office the next day after your all-nighter. Hahaha...I know what this is like. One time I fell asleep at my computer leaning back in my chair and ended up falling backwards. Next thing I knew, I was abruptly awakened with my feet in the air like a turtle on its back. I stayed there like that for several minutes until I could assess damages. I was fine...nothing bruised but my ego.<P>Catnip =^^=

Dear Tempest and Xarelel,<P>Although this post is late, it is nonetheless heartfelt. I want to join the others in saying how wonderful it is that you two selfless people have actually volunteered to keep us on course. Like Catnip, I was sure that you worked for Steve Harley. Your presence is extra-special to me now because of the fact that you donate your time to take care of us.<P>God bless you both...<BR>love,<BR>heavenly

Hey Tempest,<P> We're supposed to breathe????!!!!Jeeeeezz!!Why am I always the last one to find out!!<P> God bless you (my color is much better now)<P>------------------<BR>Gregg