I'm curious as to who has been in this the longest. I don't mean who has been HERE the longest, but who is the most years past D-day. Although I can't remember the exact day of discovery, in late July/early August it will be five years since I found out about the affair, and in October, it will be five years since starting in recovery. OC will be four on June 14. Anybody been in this longer/have an older oc? <BR>-cd

Hey CD, <P> THe oc is 20 months old.I found out about the baby when the ow was 4.5 months pregnant.

I think you and Heavenly (and perhaps Jenny) share title for the longest 'awareness' since D-Day. Mine is just over 2.5 years. I've been on the Forum since May of 99...coming up on my two year anniversary as a MB Forum member. Someone get me a cake.<P>Catnip =^^=

[to catnip:] Hap-py MB-daaaaay to yooooooooooou! Hap-py MB-daaaaaaay to yoooooooooooooou! Hap-py MB-daaaaaaaay to caaaaaaaaaaaaaatniiiiiiiiiiiiip, Hap-py MB daaaaay tooooooo yooooouuuuuuuuuuuoooooooooooo... And Many MOOOOOORE!! Blow out your [2]candles! (It was May10!)<P><BR>Uh, CD, Texasgirl's (no contact)OC was 7 last time she posted, but we don't hear often from her--you out there TG?! And doesn't someone have an older OC, like 11?! Who was that? <P>My DDay was July 1998--3yr soon. You're waaaay ahead of us CD!! And doin' great!

I can honestly say I wish it was 12 years ago and I wish I had for gotton it had ever happened. D-day for me was 2 years ago in April. Oc will be 2 in Oct. and I have only known about this board around a year. Man do I wish I had known about this since day one. What a God sent this has been.<BR>Love<BR>bw

Almost four years since discovery with an OC who is three. <P>

I am a newbie. Dday was the third week of September, 2000.<BR>H had lied about a business trip for a week. She and OC joined him. He took pictures of them and left them on the computer (in a place he thought I would never look. He just forgot that Adobe Photoshop opens back up to the last directory you looked at photos in. OC is just one year old this month.<P>Mrs. Job

Why, thank you, Jenny....your two year MB birthday must have been just this last winter, n'est pas? You were my first friend here and held my hand guiding me through my nightmare when I was raw, wounded and bleeding. You and your support was instrumental in my healing. Thank you, Jen.<P>Love<P>Catnip =^^=

d-day for the affair was almost 4 1/2 years ago. OC will be 4 in october. d-day for oc was about 3 1/2 years ago.<P>happy_girl

Hey Cat-Woman-----nip,<P> Aren't you the one responsible for getting this site started??<P> God bless you,<P>------------------<BR>Gregg

Hey cd,<P> Eighteen months ago. I'm a short timer!<P> God bless you,<P>------------------<BR>Gregg

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by cdcollins:<BR><B>I'm curious as to who has been in this the longest. I don't mean who has been HERE the longest, but who is the most years past D-day. Although I can't remember the exact day of discovery, in late July/early August it will be five years since I found out about the affair, and in October, it will be five years since starting in recovery. OC will be four on June 14. Anybody been in this longer/have an older oc? <BR>-cd</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>i'm at 4 months since D-day as you all say. seems like 4<BR>years sometimes, the paternity threat sure adds an ugly<BR>dimension to it all, 3+ months till delivery, what a weight<BR> windfall

catnip,<BR>I've only got 2 months over you in MB time! And yes Lynton, Her Royal Catnip (can we elect you kitty-something?) was instrumental to getting us our own board: Three Cheers For Catnip! Hip Hip Hooray! <P>See CD, you're winning in recovery time, by a nose.

Her Royal Cat-nip-ness,<P> I'm not worthy, I'm not worthy, I'm not worthy!!!! ( Thanks, Jenny.)<P><BR> God save the Kitty,<P>------------------<BR>Gregg

I have been in recovery since Jan 94. I learned of affair in April '93, while pregnant. He never moved out said he wanted to stay with me. I accepted that our marriage was in recovery in Jan'94. He set up a special get away for us on our anniversary. Then in April of '94, I learned of other child who was born day before our anniversary, 4 Jan, (she was born on 3 Jan '94).<BR> We are still together and never have had contactwith OC. I came to this site in May '99 I think. We have been married for 27 years now, sometimes I wonder if I should discount those months that he was in LaLa Land. What do ya'll think?<BR> This site has been a boon to me and I hang out daily even thought I do not always post.<P>Texasgirl

Hey Texas,<P> Consider it temporary insanity!!<P><BR> God bless you,<P>------------------<BR>Gregg

First d day may 5 1999 its been 2yrs. Second d day 6 months later when found out about oc nov 1999. I found this site in sept of 2000. with love flowerseed

"And Texasgirl comes up from behind for the win...!" (good to hear from you TG)<P>Am I the only one thinking of a horserace? (the Wandering Spouse is the bottom-half! )<P>Godspeed,<BR>J

Thanks, I think What do I win, the Booby prize, right?<BR>It hasn't been easy, but it has been worth it and the biggest prize has been seeing my kids see that marriages are created and do not just happen. They are 24,23,19,13, and 7, they are wonderful and they would not have grown this way if I had bailed or let him bail. <P>If I ask him if he is glad we are together, he says he wishes he could undo the wrong things he did, and wipe away all the pain he caused me during that time.<P>The key is perserverance and stubbornness, and my streak of stubborn is the size of the GREAT STATE. I hate to lose and what I would have lost is MY family. I realise that sometimes you have to let go, but I didn't and it has paid off. I believe in marriage, how about everyone else?<BR>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Texasgirl:<BR><B>Thanks, I think What do I win, the Booby prize, right?<BR>It hasn't been easy, but it has been worth it and the biggest prize has been seeing my kids see that marriages are created and do not just happen. They are 24,23,19,13, and 7, they are wonderful and they would not have grown this way if I had bailed or let him bail. <P>If I ask him if he is glad we are together, he says he wishes he could undo the wrong things he did, and wipe away all the pain he caused me during that time.<P>The key is perserverance and stubbornness, and my streak of stubborn is the size of the GREAT STATE. I hate to lose and what I would have lost is MY family. I realise that sometimes you have to let go, but I didn't and it has paid off. I believe in marriage, how about everyone else?</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>TX girl: You are inspirational. Thank you for posting today. You give us newbies hope for our marriages. I'm determined to make mine better that what it was and I believe it will be better than what it could have been without A-that is of course when temporary insanity doesn't over take my body ! <BR>I'm going on 3 mo since finding out about A and birth of OC on my B-Day (I hope I'll stop emphasizing that some day). A was almost 1 yr ago. I really don't want to think about that because our anniversary is also coming up. Any way, I digress. ivc<P>