My H tells me in the begining of the relationship he was using condoms, he got careless. He's naive when it comes to birthcontrol. OW was in her mid thirties didn't have children of her own. I guess her biological clock was ticking. Maybe she thought is was time to settle down, with a baby and married man. It didn't work that way.

My H told me that he knew OW didn't use BC since she TOLD HIM SHE DIDN'T! But he said that he figured once they started having sex that she would get on some sort of BC. Plus she had an abortion several years ago so he also thought she would most likely have another abortion if she got pregnant. It is just unreal what he presumed. <P>The OW is 32 and single. She obviously wanted children and saw my H as the way to do that, plus secure financing for the whole deal. He was so careless with the future of our family. That hurts so much. <P>Carolyn

Mine husband fell for the "it's under control" story too. She said she had the implants in her arm. I asked H, if he asked to feel them. He said he didn't know you should be able to feel them through the skin. Why are they sooooo naive.<P>We have yet to have a DNA test either. She was living with her boyfriend at the time of conception, but "claims" to have been using condoms with him regularly. So she's using condoms with a man she has two kids by, but not wearing them with a man she's known a couple of months. Can you say TRAP!<P>He said that she had three kids already and surely wouldn't want to add another to her broad. Well hello, obviously she had no qualms about having children out of wedlock, she proved that three time before. What made him think that he'd be the exception.<P>ahhhhhh, they are such dumb creatures these men that think with testosterone.<P><P>------------------<BR>Zebra Baby ...<P>Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Zebra,<BR>Did I understand you right paterenty was never proven? Are you guys paying her anything? I think the next time you guys have this child I would go get some test done. I would think you could do it without her even knowing. Wow I'm shocked! with love flowerseed

Here's another one! The OW is 35, single, and "Says" she was on the pill. How pathetic that our H's didn't care enough about us to use a condom - to make sure the ##$$!! didn't give US an STD - at this point I could care less if H had one. ... . (i've only know about A and OC for a little over a month - so if you feel my anger, you know why )